October 2, 2020
Growing up I didn’t care for School didn’t really care for education. Which now thinking about it shouldnât have been how I viewed education because my parents struggled to come to America for me to be able to have a good education and be able to pursue a career something they didnât have the chance of doing. I didnât have a passion for education, I barley went to school. When I did go I got into trouble a lot and mostly though of school as a place to be able to see my friends and hang out partially because I had strict parents and I wasnât really allowed out. Now looking back I wish I would have taken education more seriously.Â
Let me take you through my education journey. My elementary school experience was regular I think I mean I lived right up the block from my school so I would walk to school go to class and do my homework for the most part but mostly I gossiped with my friends in the back of the classroom. My teachers would move me to several different chairs in the classroom but that never really helped if I didn’t know you, I some how managed to make you my friend by the end of the day. Middle school I would say was when everything changed not just the way I viewed education but my life in general. I was attending M.S 88 in Brooklyn NY going about my day gossiping with my friends in class the usual. When my English teacher pulled me out of the classroom and told me something that stayed with me through all my years in school. I remember her telling me âyou canât just get by not putting in effort just because youâre smart doesnât mean anything, I donât see you even graduating from high school.â I remember me trying to brush it off and just walking right back into class like my teacher didnât just tell me I was basically going to fail in my education journey. After that day I just really stopped caring about school all together, got into a fight and ended up getting switched schools to a school that was closer to my house. I attended Montauk for my two remaining years of middle school. I went through something no child should ever really have to go through, and honestly it changed me as a person. I started hanging out with the wrong crowed and come high school I just continued the path I was going in. Barley attended class and when I did it was to hang out with my friends, got into a lot of fights, got into it with a couple of my teachers and staff at school that I ended up getting kicked out of 3 different high schools I went to. By then I was working so I decided to just drop out of school.Â
I could blame it all on my teacher and say that because of what she said to me as a preteen changed the way I viewed school but thatâs not really the case. I could have chose to prove her wrong but I didnât instead I proved her right in what she said. I canât blame the way things turned out solely on what my teacher said but I can say the way some teachers teach is faulty. Reading the article âI Just Wanna Be Averageâ By Mike Rose he states âBut mostly the teachers had no idea of how to engage the imaginations of us kids who were scuttling along at the bottom of the pond.â Iâve felt like this often in school with teachers a lot of them lack the ability to help engage kids interest. A lot of teachers Iâve had just read straight out of the text book they lack the ability to interact with students.Â
After dropping out of high school I started working, for a lousy salary that honestly wasnât enough to cover my bills. I worked two jobs for the most part, I ran from one job to the other with no days off the day I had off from one job I worked at the other. Not too long after I got married and had my son and my daughter. Now Iâm going through a divorce and I solely proved for my kids. My mind on education changed when I realized my life wasnât really going anywhere and I want to proved a better life for my children, proved for them everything I didnât have growing up. I knew I wanted to go back to school but I wasnât sure what I wanted to pursue. I knew I always loved law maybe because of all the shows I watch like â law in order special victims unitâ or â for lifeâ or the fact that I like helping people. I thought about becoming a lawyer but felt like I was too old to pursue that career since it takes various years. But one day in the hospital with my son I figured out I would pursue paralegal studies to try to help make a difference.Â
I remember this day like it was yesterday because thinking about it still brings tears to my eyes. It was August 17 a Friday I was at work when my phone kept ringing. I was a cashier and was busy ringing up customers so I couldnât pick up.My phone was in my back pocket so I kept feeling the vibration over and over again. I wasnât sure at the moment who was calling but I thought it must be important I asked to go use the bathroom and had someone cover me. When I stepped into the bathroom and took my phone out I had 12 missed calls and 3 voicemails and about 25 texts from my sons father saying â Iâm fucken calling you, why canât you pick up.â I didnât even bother to hear the voicemails. I called him back and before I could explain I was obviously at work he started yelling and I could hear my son in the background crying. He said â Iâve been fucken calling you, you couldnât pick up this kid keeps crying and I donât know what to do there is nothing wrong with him, come pick him!â I told him I was on my way I hung up and proceeded to leave the bathroom and locate my manager to explain to him that I had a family emergency and had to leave. He was very understanding and allowed me to leave I immediately clocked out and called my Uber. It came in less than 3 minutes and I got in and was on my way. As I got closer I called my sons father to have him ready so I could pick him up and leave. I picked him up took him home and when I arrived I changed him and realized he was crying this whole time because he had a bad diaper rash. My son has a very sensitive skin so anything can cause him a rash but the rash was extremely bad it looked as if had not been changed in a couple of hours. I called my sons father to tell him why he was crying and ask why he hadnât changed him for most of the day, I explained to him I was taking him to the doctors. I called a Uber to the hospital. When I arrived to the emergency room they took my sons insurance and proceeded to ask me what was wrong. I then explained to them that he has a really horrible diaper rash and that I was at work and had just picked him up from his fathers house. They placed us in a room for us to wait for the doctor. I remember sitting in the room holding him trying to make him feel better because he would not stop crying as I waited for the doctor. Right across from us was a mother and her son I could hear her crying. About 30 minutes went by when a nurse came in he asked if my son was Jacob and if he was 7months I said yes. He proceeded to tell me that everything I said was confidential and I thought to myself why is he telling me this but I said okay. He asked â so Jacob was in his fathers custody when this happenedâ I said â yes, he was he called me from work to pick him up and I brought him hereâ. He then proceeded to ask me â Is this the first time his dad does this â, I answered âyes because usually he only takes him for about 2 hours and then mom picks him up and has him until I get out of work.â He then tells me âIâm sorry this happened to your son, I canât imagine what you are going through this should happen to anyone especially a 7month old, to be molested by his father who is suppose to protect him, he said wait here the police will come in and you can give them your statement.â I was shocked and explained to him that he had the wrong room that my son was just here for a bad diaper rash. He looked shocked and confused and asked me if my sons last name was a very different last name. I said ânoâ and he apologized said he had the wrong room he had gotten confused because the other boy had the same name and age. The room right in front of us was where the other Jacob was I remember from earlier her mother crying. I saw the cops go in and close the door behind them. I started to cry just thinking about that how could someone do something like that to a child. I thank god it wasnât my son and hoped that their family would be okay after all that.Â
That day in the hospital determined what career I wanted to pursue which is paralegals studies helping put people like that behind bars. In the article âThe Caged Bird Prevailsâ By Stephon Hobson he states âUltimately, I believe that all things are destined. If not for the negative influences of my initial environment, I wouldnât have the tools to think outside my community.â I can relate a lot to his statement, I think everything happens for a reason and everything I went through led me to city tech to pursue my career in paralegals studies. Iâm excited to start this new journey and I am confident that my varied background has provided me with many skills that will help me succeed in college.
I personally feel like your story was very real and you kept it honest and personal. It was an emotional rollercoaster, all the details were captivating, and I liked how all the quotes you used resonated with your story, it intertwined very well. It takes a lot of courage to speak up about something like this so i respect it, it is also very respectable that you realized what changes needed to be made for your own personal growth.
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I really resonate with your story i really didn’t take school seriously even though i should have in the past but now i am serious about school but hearing your story is really inspiring with everything you went through and i am happy to hear you are on the right track now
Thank you, I think when we are young we don’t realize how serious education is and how much of a role it plays as we get older. I’m glad that since you resonated with my story we are both on the right track and on our way to making a career for ourselves.