Advice from Linda:
You can’t just stop worrying. Worrying has been a huge positive in my life.
There is lots of evidence that worriers are better prepared for life’s challenges and so tend to do better in the long run. I wouldn’t give it up at all.
But, it is possible to live better with worry. Mediation and mindfulness (tons of articles and books on how), even for just 10 minutes a day, makes a huge difference. There you learn to worry without fear for one thing.
Estimates I’ve seen of personality types suggests there might be about 10% of the population that does what we do. That seven hundred million people on the planet presently. You’re in good company.
Keep on telling this to yourself. I read this quote
somewhere and kept it saved on my phone to remind myself – ‘Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but, takes you nowhere.’
Divert your mind
Detach yourself from the chain of thoughts that worry you. Go out. Do something. Keep yourself busy.
Talk it out
This works for a lot of people. Talk to somebody who really understands you. If they are unavailable, get online. There are many anxiety forums where people are there to listen.
Take a break from your schedule
Get a holiday with your family, your friends or just tour a new city alone. You will return rejuvenated.
Write a journal
I experienced that writing your worries gives better clarity, reduces the convolution in your head and decreases the frequency of worrisome thoughts.
Watch something motivating
A good Ted talk, inspiring movie, or video sometimes gives us the confidence and courage to do something, moving past our worries.
All in all, don’t take life that seriously. Remember that you have only one life to live. It’s almost no use wasting it over a lot of things we worry about. Breathe. It will get better.