Hall English 1101 Fall 2020

Author: Esther (Page 6 of 10)

Source Entry

My Source: Terri Orbuch, ā€œIs it lust or Is it loveā€,TEDxOaklandUniversity,(September 14,2014)

Terri Orbuch does a ted talk where she speaks about differentiating love and lust in a relationship.In the ted talk she explains the signs of love and lust step by step. And I believe that her main point is that love and lust can be in a healthy relationship. Itā€™s just that there are things that naturally have to grow in a relationship in order for it to be maintained within a relationship. For example in the video she says ā€œ Itā€™s love when you both use the word ā€œweā€ in the relationship and Itā€™s like you guys are intertwined and they are no longer just focusing on themselves but one another.ā€ And she also says ā€œ To rekindle lust into a love oriented relationship you need to do the things you used to do in the beginning of the relationship which is to go out new places to keep the surprises and mystery alive which brings lustā€.

When IĀ  watched the video I was a bit skeptical about it because I was afraid that I wasn’t going to get the response or information that I wanted to get. But as i finished watching the video she made me realize how much teens can easily get blinded by lust thinking that itā€™s love. I was able to do my own sort of comparisons between lust and love while watching the video being that I am a teenager myself.

Ā Terri in the video said that ā€œ Itā€™s love when you want to show the person off to the people that are most important in your lives.ā€ Now I remember when I was in high school and my friends would be in their relationships and i would ask does your parents know and they would tell me no because they knew that their parents weren’t going to agree with what was going on but somehow they still believed that they were in love and that they would end up getting married after college. I used to tell them I hope their dreams come to existence, then a month later they broke up because they realized that those dreams of getting married were only temporary and that they didnā€™t really have the maturity to actually maintain a relationship. My main point is that a true relationship that has true love is something that should not be hidden. And I just really like how Terri properly showed the signs of love and lust in a relationship.

 

Misconception of love and lust

I am interested in this topic because teenagers have a tendency to mistake lust for love. As we all know, according to google that ” LoveĀ is a deep feeling of affection that you have for another person. It’s a lasting attraction that goes beyond the surface and turns into emotional attachment.Ā Lust, on the other hand, is basically a physical attraction that leads to an overwhelming feeling of sexual desire thanks to a rush of hormones.” Teenagers lack the maturity and experience to differentiate between love and lust. I often see teenagers get into relationships and I wonder if its just a phase or is it theĀ  beginning of a disaster. In other words, the misconception of love and lust maybe a simple experience or a tremendous mistake that can scar for life.

After concluding my research I expect to gain the understanding to assist my fellow teenagers by helping them in their decisions prior to a relationship. Relationship is not something that you jump into, it isĀ  something that requires wisdom, time and patience its not something you jump into just for fun. Once you enter a relationshipĀ  for entertainment, your emotion begins to get attached with the person and you will end up getting hurt. I also expect to find the reason why teens feel like they are ready to engage in such commitment without a clue as to where it may lead. I am an example of a bad decision made by my mother and father. I suffered the consequences of their bad decision. I am well and in college by God’s grace. Unlike other teenagers who did not have that opportunity.

If I do find information that goes completely against what I had expected to find, I will be happy to learn things from a different aspect. I am willing to learn, since one of my goals is to share and assist people with the knowledge that I gained. I intend to enlighten others with the truth even if it means that I have to challenge my own assumptions. The best way to assist others is to collect factual information and real life experiences, which will encourage the reader to think other wise and to be convinced.

I intend on using non fiction articles, television shows,Ā  books brochures, pamphletsĀ  and newspapers to obtain information as well as real life experience by interviewing others. Those genres will be great assets to obtain information and support the findings to my question.

Genre

A genre that i know well is comedy. And comedy is something that you see more on stage which is meant to make people happy.Ā  And according to google it happens to have a lot of rhetorical features such as “characterization, stereotype character, flat character, round character, static character , dynamic character, foil character, “and many more. Comedy is something that people need in their every day lives and it is something that can either be done intentionally or not. I learned the rules of this genre while watching comedy shows such as fresh prince of bel air , the parkers and living single. I also learned the rules about this genre through “Navigating Genres” by Kerry Dirk.Ā  In the text he said something that my attention about genres in general and he said knowing what a genre is used for can help people to “accomplish goals, whether that goal be getting a job by knowing how
to write a stellar resume, winning a personā€™s heart by writing a romantic love letter, or getting into college by writing an effective personal statement.” and also on the text he mentions how comedy is done” Possibly without even thinking about it, or you were recognizing the rhetorical situation of your action and choosing to act in a manner that would result in the outcome you desired. “

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