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Technology breaking apart families and relationships. By Alejandra Avila

Technology has change dramatically throughout the last few decades keeping the control of feelings and acts inside the different individuals. I was born in 1997, where technology was not as much advance as it’s now in days. Must of the people decide to give up their personal lives and let a digital technology, and share all kind of problems they may have in their personal lives. Digital advisers are taking away the sensibility of empathy with our family, friends and sentimental partners in the sense of expressing ourselves and showing them our true feelings. In today’s society, people prefers to talk over the phone and use different social medias such as Facebook, twitter, whatsapp and more than meet up in person and spend some time together, building up some memories, digital technology has also change the way people thing about others. Talking over the phone won’t be the something as talking in person with our partners reactions through things will be different.

Technology has become a bad influence for people to involve in their sentimental lives. My first interviewee was Reynaldo Diaz. He confirm my statement about people involving the technology more than what they need too. (The interview was done in Spanish but for purposes of my paper I will be translating his words to English) he sated “During my times the girls used to do love letters, we gave them flowers and serenade every time we could, but now in days the only thing they do is chat through the different social medias an all happen through a phone.” (Diaz, P.6)  I will love to be as the times people could go and spend some time together, show to that specific person how much you love them, with letter songs and acts. But at a day that does not come up as natural as before, people prefers to spend more time in their videogames and social Medias than spend their time with that special person and build up some memories for both of them. Another thing that my interviewee mention was “now at days people doesn’t have the ability of communication anymore” during times people have the mentality that if they doesn’t like something from a person they just keep it to themselves and try to avoid that person, so their attitude does not botters you. It happens the same in relationships, instead of talking to the other person they just try to keep distance and send indirect via social Medias and that will not make thing better, it will ruin relationship more fast than usual.

On the other hand a person from this era can said the opposite in the sense that social Medias and the different phone devisers do to our emotions and brain reaction when we are interacting with our sentimental partners and family as well. My second interviewee was my sister, her name is Gabriela Avila, she is a college student attending to BMCC she is now in her second year of the same, she is now 19 years old. She totally disagree with my argument while she said “social medias not always split families and relationships between two or more people, I think they do the appositive, when you are far from each other it’s thanks to that, technology that people can communicate and keep the contact with one and other” (Avila,3) In my opinion she had a point, thanks to the technology and electronica devisers that we have now in days we can keep the communication with special people that are far away from us. However it’s not always the case, social media has turn to a public diary for many of the people, that published every single thing that they do or things that are going on in their lives on the different social medias that they have access to. Today this is one of the most common reason why relationships does not last for long terms of time, it has also being the reason of why many families had been split apart it could be either because someone post something or even themselves. Today in days most of the people does not communicated with one another anymore because of the different social Medias.

Going back to our main topic, Electric devisers being more explicit mobile phones came to our society to split and ruin the family unity as well as relationships. While the phones come out to the market, children started to paid more attention to the digital devise instead of going out and spend more time in the outside and spend sometimes with their families and friends, that way they could build sentimental attachments with each other, but now in days they prefer to stay in door and play all day long with the different digital devisers. This force the parents and more the mother to keep contact with the technology so they can have at least a communication with their children. Stated by Furtunaty and Taipate “women while lived together with children may feel obligated to use their mobile phones more often to keep an eye on their children.”  (Furtunaty and Taipate, P 7). This quote means that the mothers that are usually the ones that protect their children and doesn’t want anything bad to go around them, are the ones that go around the different social medias and the different apps to prove that their children are safe enough while they are using the different social media and apps.

Another reason that proves how does the different social medias and technical deviser are breaking relation lines between people is that people throughout times and more now than ever before are trying to get back into the habit of communication with one and other without an scream in between them because they are realizing how does technology affects the with the different relations that people have. This statement is support by an article name “connect your brain to the internet” that stated “Many of the negative forecasts were bullish on technological growth, just skeptical about our ability to control it. In 2021, Steve Williams wrote from Calgary, Alberta, “computers will become so ubiquitous that they will be relegated to appliance status like toasters, as people strive to put the misnamed social media aside in favor of face-to-face human connections.” (Lin and Huang, p-8) This quote is saying that people is blaming technology because we lost the control while it comes to deal with technology, we have no longer the control of what we have done to ourselves and for ourselves.

As time passed by its giving the reason to the different people that believe, that technology only has come to ruin the empathy of people with one and another. Now in days people prefer to use social media and mobiles than go out to the world and build some memories and experiences. This is also leading the parents to participated and behave as their children with the electronic devisers and social medias. This is happening because it’s the only way they found to communicate with their own children now at days. Adding more in today’s society people doesn’t gave themselves the opportunity of build and created new memories that it’s a really important part of our brain development. As it is stated in the book “Brain Rules” by John Medina emotions it’s a really important part of our memory development, we can remember and express empathy with others thanks to the different emotions that had during and specific moment. Technology has become the biggest reason of breaking apart relationships and families.






Word cited

Avila Gabriela. Personal interview. 01 of December 2015.

Diaz Reynaldo. Personal interview. 02 of November 2015.

Leopoldina Fortunati and Sakari Taipale. Women’s emotions toward the mobile phone. Feminist media studies. Academic search complete. Vol.12. 4 of November 2012. Web. 24 of November 2015.

Thomas Lin and Jonathan Huang. Connect your brain to the internet. Section D.  LexisNexis Academy. New York. The new york times. December 13,2011. Web. 07 of December 2015.

My Life as a Civil Engineer. By: Alejandra Avila

I have always dream to be this one person that construct and build the highest and amazing’s buildings that we have around in New York City, well this has always been me. My name is Alejandra Avila, I just started college at New York City College of Technology, and I’m majoring in civil engineering. A goal in my life is to start my own company. I have always dream of creating my own company with a friend of mine that is studying architecture because we knew what we want to do with our life, we came up with this idea. We want to have our own projects and we want to be successful in life and in the business. If I can’t achieve this goal at least I want to work for the government, to help construct and develop a better city (NYC) in the terms of structure and infrastructure. I decide to chose this career because I have always dream with wearing one of the blue or white helmet, the same ones I see does individuals I pass through a construction place, I want to make NYC a better place to live, I love numbers and most of the time this career require number and precision, I love to build thing and be creative, The paid it’s really well


Being a Civil Engineer requires a great effort in all aspects. A Civil engineer usually works indoors, but they also spend a great amount of the time at constructions sites and in workplaces outdoors. A Civil engineer designs, constructs, supervise, operates, and maintains large construction projects and systems, which includes roads, buildings, airports, tunnels, dams, bridges, and systems for water supply and sewage treatment. The department that offers this specific degree is Construction Management and Civil Engineering Technology, and it’s part of the school of Technology and design. Even though I am sure of what I want to become in life I’m having some question on my mind that I will like to answer them as I go through this paper. What does civil engineering focus on?  Price or environment? What is the best thing to do? Work for the government or private? As I go through this paper I hope to explain them in details and answer them as well. In order to develop myself as a civil engineer I must work really hard and study until i get the bachelor degree in civil engineering or civil engineering technology. According to the Bureau of Labor statistics states that a civil engineer earns $79,340 per year and $38.14 per hour. (United States)

Have you ever walked down the street and look at this magnificent building that is under construction and say to yourself one of these days I’m going to be one of those people that leads one of this. When I see this people wearing their colorful helmets I imagine myself wearing one of those. An image that stays with me comes from different episodes of the Spanish telenovela “Dama y obrero.” The different episodes show how a woman may go into this business and wear the helmet, and all people around her be proud of her and what she had done with her life so far. This TV show encourages me even more in my decision of becoming a civil engineer because the protagonist was a lady and she loves what she was doing and she does it really well. I mean it was amazing the way they close their agreement with their customers and the way they manage their time, their office hours with their personal lives and everything else. The flats that they work with them were just amazing. She looks so decide and strong in the world of men that I just can’t stop thinking about being in that specific area in where the lady doesn’t go much because it requires decision, and character. I describe myself young strong lady that passed through a lot the last year and never stop fighting, and here I am trying to fight for what i want, what I want to achieve became a civil engineer. Moreover this industry I’m about to go into I know it’s mostly for men but i want to be one of the few exception to this rule, and wear the helmet that i always dream to wear, and indicate that I’m a civil engineer

.dama y obrero

When you live in a one of the biggest cities in the world like New York City is, you want the same to be the best as possible, so visitors can be impress and see the beauty of the city without any mishap, and know why it’s one of the most important city around the world. A civil engineer takes care of this, they try to keep the city as good as possible in terms of infrastructure, and they also work with architects to build new better and attractive things for our visitors and citizens as well, having in mind what it’s better for the environment and economy.  As i mentioned before a civil engineer goes hand to hand with an architect, but they can also build things as well. According to the department career connections “Civil engineers can build things like roads, airports, tunnels, bridges, septic system (etc)” (kis p 33). As I said before, a civil engineer is in charge of the social (public) infrastructure, and always tries to keep uploading their creations, so the different cities move as long as the technology does as well. They try to keep the city update so can be easy for the visitors to transport around feel secure and proud inside the city. By doing this they will raise the population in the city, I’m referring to the residents and visitors as well.

Moreover, It’s not just because an engineer need and must be creative and precise in what they are doing that i decided to pick this major, It is because i love numbers and as people had told me and i have notice as well my entire life is that i’m pretty good with numbers and that all that has do deal with numbers seems pretty easy for me. As it is being state in the Catalog a civil engineer must have “ an ability to apply a knowledge of mathematics, science, engineering and technology to engineering technology problems that require limited application of principle but extensive practical knowledge” (college catalog p 232) this means that you must develop a good ability in mathematics and the other areas to develop a good discipline on the engineer area.

Now that I’m trying to become a civil engineer, I’m try to be as much as inform about this topic as i can, about how much money does they paid per year, what they must know about and be focused on and how and to what they should be related to. As i mentioned it before what i will like for my future it’s my own company, do my own agreements with my own costumes, and if it’s possible to achieve i will like my name in the front of an important magazine that contribute and give credits to the best engineers and architects around the city.


Word cited


Dama y obrero. Network. New York. 2013. TelevisiĂłn.


Ku, Wendy A. “Careers IN THE 21St Century.” Children’s Technology & Engineering 18.4 (2014): 32-33. Academic Search Complete. Web. 2 Nov. 2015.


New York College of Technology College Cataloge 2015-2016(citytech). New York: New York city of technology, 2015. PDF


United States. Department of Labor. Bureau of labor statistics. “civil engineer” Occupational outlook handbook. Washington: Bureau of labor statistics, Web. 11/02/15

The Best Experience Ever. By: Alejandra Avila

My name is Alejandra Avila, I am from Colombia and I have been here in NYC since 2008. This is my first year in NYC College of Technology.  I enjoy the way the city is build up and the way it works. The world becomes a multy-scenario for every individual to build and learned from their own personality and person. In life there is always one thing that defines who we are going to be, and later on it become the reason of who we are, and it helps to build our personality. In many cases this reason may be an object, a song, writing, our family, experiences and in many cases our sentimental partners. In my case there is one experience that has helped me to build up and define who I am which was cheerleading. Being a Cheerleader means to leads the crowd by shouting encouragement and supporting a team at a sports event with discipline and happiness.  Being a cheerleader was one of the most wonderful feeling and experience that I ever had on my entered life. I was a cheerleader for my elementary school “San Jose Campanath” in my native country. These memories define who I am because my family got together all in one place to support one of their family members. Cheerleading made me feel free and released me from all of my problems. Cheerleading forced me to be accurate and feel the adrenaline during the flips & the competitions I participated in were amazing.

Being all together in one place made me enjoy what I was doing and made me even happier each time it happened. I am the kind of person that loves family unity and even more when the whole family gets together to support one another. Years ago when my sister just started as cheerleading, the whole family went to support her. She was having an important presentation in one of the most famous theaters of our city Cali, Colombia. We all were proud of her because she was having a big moment. She was just 6 years old and she was having a presentation in the most famous theater as a cheerleader. This experience that I had that moment seeing my whole family together to support her made me realize that it can be even better if it was the two of us. The thought of my sister and I doing a presentation as cheerleader, along with our family cheering us on, encouraged me to become a cheerleader.

Becoming a cheerleader gave me the feeling of going to a psychologist. Prating this sport made me forgot about all my problems for at least a day, and aided me in finding solution to my problems. During my practices and presentations I tried to release all of my problems and focus in what I was going to do with my love for the sport. I gave up all my stresses that I was carrying with me, whether it was anything about school, fights with my family or with me. There was a time that I had a problem that I didn’t know if it could be fixed. My grandma who was my guardian at the time didn’t have any method of picking me up after every afterschool practice, so my mom told me that I have to quit. At first I thought how I’m going to quit the thing I love the most, I knew I was going to come up with a plan to prevent that my mom took me out from the team. Days later we had a competition between schools. During my performance I released all of my stresses, because I was doing what I loved by releasing my frustrations in a productive manner. When we were on stage we had the ability of making faces to the judges. That was the best way I could release all of my problems, moreover going into the sky while doing my flips made me feel like a free bird. I felt that no matter what there will always be a way to be free instead of being stuck in a cage. After this competition, we were in semifinal and it was a time that I couldn’t quit. My mom found a way that I could go home after the practice. She made this decision because my grandma told her how happy performing as a cheerleader made me. She realized that after every practice or presentation I was content due to cheerleading, my confidence grew and found myself happier than I’ve ever been.

Cheerleading was my biggest passion when I was just a girl. Everything around me was about this awesome sport. When I was playing with my friends I wanted to teach them what I knew the flips that I knew about acrobatics and the choreographies that the couch had taught us. I knew that it was dangerous because when the teacher was teaching us we had special equipment. However, when teaching other outside of the cheerleading, we didn’t have anything like that yet, we till did it. My sister and I tried to teach them the basics. These basics were the bridge, and the half-moon. I wanted them to feel the adrenaline that I was feeling when I did them. Yet, I  couldn’t tell if they were enjoying it as much as I did, but what I could tell it’s that I love and till this days love doing my flips and enjoy the sensation of being in the air and flowing with majesty beauty. I love the sensation of adrenaline that goes through my body. However, if you’re not careful, you may get injured.    As it happened around 9 years ago, we were preparing ourselves for the semi-finals. We were doing great. In this sport there must be four people as base and the one that goes on the top and does the flips in the air. Our couch saw that one of the base girls wasn’t paying attention to the girl on top and she could have gotten injured. Our couch gave us us and speech about the safety, looking after one another, and the importance of our focus. At the begging I was little worried because I was one of the girls that goes on top, due to being short and slim. I was afraid that I would get injured due to my classmates making a mistake. However, since this was a team effort, I felt my fate in my team mates’ hands and did what I had to do in the practices and presentations. The risk and the adrenaline never go away in this type of sport. It’s like doing an extreme sport but in a less extreme way.

You may ask yourself, why do I love the feeling of adrenaline so much, even thought I was just a little girl? Well I can say that I love the felling that I had during each performance we did for the school. Each time I was on stage it was awesome. I can’t describe the feeling that I used to feel with words. You can only understand the way I was felling if you saw my face during each of my performances. While I was cheerleading I enjoy more than what I could. There was a time while we had a really important presentation for very important people on one of the most famous theater in Cali. We were all prepared for this big day. We all were nervous of course but when the time arrives I was so nervous that I stood laughed and couldn’t stop. Before us there was an art presentation they had trees, clowns and all that kind of things on stage, I couldn’t control myself, which caused one of the trees to fall and people started laughing. It was not my intention, but it worked in a way because that is the purpose of our performance. It is to entertain people. It wasn’t the way I used to do it but it still work, but after that embarrassing  moment I pulled myself together and them I caught up with my group. The presentation ended up being a success. I love the feeling of happiness and freedom that this sport gave me for few minutes or even seconds. We made crazy faces and entertained the audience. Felt the air on my face and body, made figures on the air with my body and heard the reactions of the people that were surprise by the things we were doing. Hearing these things will encourage you to do them more offend and better. Being apart of the competitions or participating in the practice made me the cheerful girl that I needed to be in order to have the energy to participate in the cheers that were made by our couch. I enjoyed these performances as much as I could until I quit because I didn’t tolerate the mates I had.

Now that you know more about an experience that helped me build up my personality I will like to share what I would like to do with this experience and how it can help me in the future. Being a cheerleader is a thing of my past. Now I will like to be focused on my studies and becoming and engineer, moreover I really don’t have time now to be on sports. As you can notice I really love this sport, but in order to enjoy this sport to its fullest potential I need to dedicate time to it and that is what I don’t have at the moment. However I will like in the future to teach or at least tell my children about the good times and moments cheerleading have provided me.  I will love to see one of my children to share the passion I once had, but if they don’t like it for any reason I will be more than happy because I had the opportunity of been part of an awesome group at my time.