As a little girl I was a fan of boy toys. As a kid, I had a deck of Pokemon cards and Yu-Gi-Oh! cards; although boys did not want to play with me, I still insisted to be part of their boy crew. I Once tried to join a girl crew but the girls either thought I was to “boy-ish” or straight up weird. Thats when I finally went to my mom to get some advice…”act like a girl or something, or maybe bring cookies, why not invite them over”; I was hoping for something else like a “don’t listen to them”. As I went on to growing and heading to middle school, I realized that with my friends being a tom boy was the coolest; you had a set of equal male and female friends. My friend told me, ” it’s not to good being girly and it’s not to good being boy-ish you have to be in the middle” . I took my friends word of advice to the heart and still carry it with me, but that carries a conflict between my mother and I. I use to not wear make up, or wear dresses, nor sandals, and most importantly do my nails. And my mom worried that no guy would be interested by the way I act, eat, sit, and dress; my mom would either say ” Gosh!! can you at least put some gloss on your lips, why don’t you sit like a lady, eat slowly and sit straight, at least put your hair up, put on a tight shirt you are always wearing baggy shirts”. The most vexatious part of them all is when I head to my grandmas house I already know where my mother got her nagging and her “advice of being lady like”; my own grandmother tells me the same thing as my mom and how she acted to get guys my age.. how fun.. No one but my mom has ever gotten mad at me for acting “tom boy/ girl”. In high school my style of dressing started to change, I wore some makeup but only because my mom kept rubbing it in my face; but my attitude was and still is the same. My boyfriend tells me he likes who I am and does not judge my personality nor looks and he “fell for me” because of how I embrace my self as a person and does not take anyone’s advice unless its necessary.