You have now entered the finale to this series! If you need to catch up here you go>>>
The main goal of this series has been to stimulate your thoughts. When you hear the words âself discoveryâ, people tend to think it means to find yourself.
Nope, the big deal is not to find yourself, we are already found.
What does find yourself even mean?
Self discovery is about knowing yourself. So I wanted to stimulate your thoughts on getting to a place where you are in tune with YOU underneath all of the outside influences. Your thoughts of how you perceive others and how others perceive you, and how easy it is to get it all wrong. Thoughts of knowing your truth and owning it. Thoughts of finding assurance, security, and happiness in knowing who you are, defined by your own standards.
The easiest way to get to know yourself is the same way you would get to know anyone else right? Questions, listening, paying attention. Trust me itâs okay if you havenât been. We barely make time for intentional self-discovery. Weâre just bombarded with messages from other people: what they want for us, what they think of us, how they perceive us; and we forget to listen the voice that matters most, our own!
I am no expert but I know what works for me, and only hope that the things I share may work for you as well. Through this process, I have learned more about myself as well. Part 2: Perceptions meant a lot to me. It threw back into my face how I can also be part of the problem. Assuming things about people I donât know, writing my own story about them before one word of conversation. Creating snap judgements of people based on their expression or clothing, or how I (and this one I do a lot) create a character and personality for someone after simply reading an email from them.
I asked a few of my friends: my âsister friendâ of over 11 years Mone, and a few of my blogging sisters Sam, Pebbles, and Cherishe to really dig deep like we talked about in Part 1, and tell me who they are, and I created a video montage of their responses. These women inspire me everyday and I am humbled to know them. Â Embarking on a journey of self discovery is one of the most rewarding paths in life you will ever take, and one of the most beautiful things to witness happen in someone else’s life.
Donât believe me? Just watch. Click the video below to hear their self written stories :).
Just want to say thank you to these ladies for being vulnerable and open and muses for me and others around them all the time, I love you guys.
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Although the journey of self-discovery never ends, youâll know youâve reached a good place when youâve developed a greater sense of self-pride. You will be proud of the person you are and embrace even the ugliest things about you, because without them, you wouldnât be you.
Teach yourself how to accept and love yourself for you who you are, no matter what youâve been through and what youâve learned in the process.
Acceptance makes all the difference in your confidence, self-esteem, and overall sense of self love. Love is loud and infectious and it stands out. Love yourself and others will have no choice but to fall in line hunny.
Own yourself, own your thoughts and your mind, and know that there’s nothing anyone can do or say that can take you away who you are, who you define yourself to be, from YOU.
I hope you enjoyed this series and it inspired you to get to know the âman (or woman lol) in the mirrorâ more.
Love, Neffi.
Neffi! your writing is so encouraging and beautiful and it never ceases to make me laugh and inspire! Self acceptance is such a hard and long journey and it’s so amazing that you’re putting that conversation out there!
Neffi,
Its not often that I am asked the question who are you? Instead of being asked questions about my character, people often judge me or make up these ideas about my character based on how they perceive me. Thank you for giving me a platform to have my voice heard so that I can tell who I am.