Domestic violence Unit 2

Amaya Brooks

Eng 1101

11/2/19

Unit 2

 

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When a victim is in relationship with abuser normally the abuser believe their superior demand respect from the victim. The abuser can be anyone it doesn’t see gender or race. My source the National Domestic Violence Hotline describe the abuser tactics as a wheel of power and control. The abuser at one point or another uses one or all of the points on this wheel. Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior used by one partner to maintain power control over another partner in an intimate relationship (national domestic violence hotline:whats is domestic violence?). Abuser uses the power and control to intimidate victims. Make them feel less than or inferior by abusing their partners. There are many types of abuse. some are more common than other like  physical abuse, emotion, financial, etc these are all the most common ones. A lot of people are aware of physical abuse which is choking, hitting, slapping, pinning down, pushing.Then there is some that aren’t so familiar like Reproductive abuse, it sounds exactly what it is controlling a person when they can or can’t get pregnant by controlling their birth control or purposely breaking the condom forcing them to have a baby. Now is it credible ? I believe so national domestic violence hotline is secondary sources they use people’s real life situations to come up with their facts and support them with many examples. This sources answer my question by explaining to me all elements of abuse and supports the claim of victim normally have a hard time leaving due to the fact their extremely scared of their partner or In denial of the fact their in an abusive relationship too afraid to ask for help.

 

Sources 2

 

In the song there a stranger in my house  songwriter tamia sings about how she unaware of this new person that’s in her home it’s her husband she was talking about. She refers to him as a stranger because he wasn’t acting like her house lyrics in the chorus of the song states “ Cause he wouldn’t touch me like that and wouldn’t treat me like you do He would adore me, he wouldn’t ignore me So I’m convinced there’s a stranger in my house “ which leaves a lot gateway space to take prior research apply it to the situation and reading in between the lines of metaphors of what tamia is painting for listeners. Her husband being a stranger to her because he isn’t acting like himself ignoring her or even hitting her which are all signs of abuse. But tamia also has a conflicting conversation with herself tries to remind and convince herself that must be her husband because she as stated “  I’m checking your clothes And you wear the same size shoe You sleep in his spot And you’re driving his car” she aware that’s her husband but isn’t himself. This relates to my question because it shows the mindset of the victim and leaves possibility of why a victim wouldn’t want to leave or struggle to leave because she believes he will change his emotions and actions as a husband but doesn’t. this source I believe is credible because she is talking about an event that happened to her in the past this is basically coming straight from the horse’s mouth. who lie about that on top of the fact because she is telling her story and no else is this is a primary source holds weight to my research question

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Many victims struggle with removing themselves from this toxic relationship because they don’t have support from others about further steps they should take to remove themselves from the problem. Victim normally go through many conflicting thoughts when coming forward. Victim blaming can be one of the reasons why victims have a hard time leaving their relationship. According to victim reality TV star Basketball Wives Evelyn Lozada posted on instagram clapping back to people that had an opinion on her domestic violence case against former football player and ex husband Chad Ochocinco. After referring to herself as a survivor and not a victim Lozada believe that victim blaming makes it hard for them to step forward.  As stated in post “ victim blaming culture discourages domestic violence victim from coming forward. The fear of being judged and shamed is enough to make anyone stay quiet and suffer in silence” which makes it harder for them to leave their spouse. Lozada also believe when victim build up enough courage to “speak their truth” many people don’t believe them don’t support them on the fact that they spoke up especially if abuser has higher social media following people believe the victim are clout chasing. Which is pretty cruel if you ask me what happen to innocent until proven guilty that doesn’t just work inside the courtroom it should be applied everywhere. Then wonders why victims don’t come forward, who wants to be told their truth is a lie? . Now due to where I got my source from many may say its not credible because anyone can post on instagram and thats correct anyone can post on this social media but truthful I believe depend the story how many elements are supported by true facts. Instagram can be credible its crediblity shouldn’t be questioned due to where it came from as far as the app but more about who said it, who post this story is it factual the author is what matters.

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So let’s play a game of what if so say one day a victim comes forward and tells their story of the abuse they have been going through with his or her spouse to the police and now they want to start a case against abuser. There are many different penalties of domestic violence offenses it all depends all on evidence in the case. Statewide penalties for domestic violence change from being a simple misdemeanor to a harsh felony due to elements the case presents. According to my sources “charges depend on the severity of the injury offense being charged and whether the defendant has a criminal history, age of the victim. Many states also will upgrade offense if the victim is a child .”  each offense may get a different penalty some can be as simple as a fine or community service or something more harsh and severe like restraining order supervised visits with child or completely terminating parental rights lastly up to ten years of imprisonment. Unless it’s Spousal abuse this abuse gets a totally different charge and penalty oddly enough it’s not the same as domestic violence but is similar. The difference between both of them is your relation to your abuser. Spousal abuse is the most common abuse. According to my Source “ charges and penalties for spousal abuse depend on whether the acts result in serious bodily harm, have been continual, or if the accused has a history of abusive behavior.” meaning that charges can change due to damaged created by abuser. It’s clear our legal system has an order they try to follow its gladly appreciated. but it only works if you suffered from physical trauma or emotion trauma. If it was any other type of abuse like financial abuse or it wouldn’t be able to be proven under spousal abuse charges. Also this system wouldn’t work for long because its not proactive on the violence but really only reactive on it. On top of the fact, this only works if the victim is willing and not afraid to come forward. So the legal issue is does the crime fit the punishment ? and does this secure the safety of the victim if abuser only gets serviced a small amount of time jail comes back out after servicing his time because he only got charged with a misdemeanor. My sources relates to my question because this gives another reason why it might be difficult for a victim to come forward and get the help they need to escape this abusive relationship al Abuse Charges and Penalt