Research paper: Pre-daft

Many different cultures has their own parenting style. Many would believe that the Chinese way of parenting can be crude, especially to Americans. Chinese parents have high expectations for their children. The expectations of their child getting straight A’s, learning the violin or the piano had many non-Asians defining them as tiger parents. Tiger parents seems to be unloving, strict, and controlling, they do have a connection and relationship with their children. Children doesn’t have to be from the age of five to fourteen, Chinese parents use this term in context of his or her sons and daughter no matter their age. The thirty-five year old Chinese male will still be refer as a child to their parents. Chinese parents expressed love differently then the Americans. Instead of verbally expressing love to their child or with loving gestures like hugs, tiger parents shows their love and communicate by making their favorite dish for dinner, engage in their child’s education progress, and even by what other may see of controlling. These communications and show of love fulfilled the child’s happiness as much as any parenting style would.

Tiger parents do not verbally use the phrase, “I love you” or give out loving gestures like hugs and so as their children. In “Do Asian-American Parents Push Their Kids?”, Kathy Seal expressed, “Westerners who don’t see Asian-American parents hugging and kissing their children or praise them in words may think them cold.” However, it is not that they don’t love them, but they want to the child to know who has authority. It can be compare to an individual won’t be saying phrases like “I love you” to his or her employer. For the child, the show of love and communication is quite similar. Children tend to show their love without the use of words nor using loving gestures. Even though the phrases like “I love you” and loving gestures are not ban from the relationship, however one can say this show of love can happen once in a blue moon.

Instead of the use of words and loving gestures, tiger parents show their love by doing simple tasks that the child loves. One thing the child expect their tiger parents to do is to be “guan” (Seal 1) In other words, Although children would out tiger parents feels that when they are being questioned and told what to do may seems annoying to them, children with tiger parents love the be controlled and demanded from their tiger parents. The children feels and know that the parent care about them. It is what these children is used to and they understand the the meaning of “ guan” as the parents giving them attention. (Seal 1) In a American Television show; Family Guy, an episode shows how westerner see Asian parents; an Asian parents are portray as a not loving towards their child. The Asian dad walks into his son room and ask, “Are you a doctor yet?” and the son replied, “No dad, I’m twelve.” The father then response, “Talk to me when you a doctor.” However the truth behind that is the tiger dad cares about the son and want him to be live up to his potentials.

The tiger parents show of love and communication of controlling and demanding involves with the child success. Many children with non-tiger parents might see the stress that the children of tiger parent has. This is one big purpose of why tiger parents are tiger parents. The want of their children to be successful when they are in their education, jobs, and overall their life. Success to tiger parents on their children would be the child being on the top of his or her class, having gold medals on different academic subjects, and having an full score on the exam. The success of the child doesn’t end there, as for the “children” that are in their adulthood, success involve the child getting married, having kids, being self-sufficient and be able to help out other family members.



work cited

Seal, Kathy. “Asian-American Parents: Pushy or Perfect?” Pacific Standard. N.p., 18 Jan. 2011. Web. 24 Nov. 2014.

“Family Guy – Asian Family.” YouTube. YouTube, 14 Jan. 2011. Web. 24 Nov. 2014.


Research Proposal (2): Tiger parents effects on Chinese American Children

According to the urban dictionary, Tiger parenting is “A mother who is overly strict with her child in order to foster an academically competitive spirit.This form of upbringing is intended to direct a child towards financially successful careers at the potential risk of feeling emotionally unfulfilled and/or socially inept.” Many of their parent will defend their parenting style by saying it is for the best of their children. The purpose of this essay is to address what is “tiger parents” and how that could work on child however one may argue that it will leads to children being pressured, in result, child with tiger parents can impact negatively in their child’s happiness. Questions this paper would consider including is that is tiger-parenting really works in a child grades in school(?), What is the term of success means to these type of parents(?), and are children raise by these type of parenting style liked to be raise this way after they grow up(?). The Chinese are putting their children in high standards leading to stressfulness. Chinese children are expected to have above average grades, attend in school activities, learn both English and Chinese, etc. While during the teen years, the expectation has increased into finding a part time job, studying more, having a high SAT score, etc.

Annotated Bibliography:

This article provide information needed about Asian-American parents being a tiger mom. Which is a keyword used in this proposal. It seems to be opposing my idea, which can be great to use as a counterpoint. It mentions how my ideas are just stereotypes rather than the real thing.

This source talks about tiger moms and if it is effected or not. The article proofs that it is  real. This source gives me information about it, then base on the information, i would argue how it won’t work on every children.

Amy Chua is an author of an book (Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother)  that helps me with my research. She was raise by strict Chinese immigrants. This link leads to an about page of Amy Chu. I also plan to use the book as my source too. I however don’t know how to site that yet.