On page 90 of chapter 4 Frank has a talk with Obama about his grandfather Stan. Frank was like Obama’s mentor that hung out with Stan .His grandparents were also white . He mentions and points out a few things about Stan’s actions that were going to affect Obama when he were to get older . The long talk he mentions his grandfather’ will never relate or ever go through what Obama or someone of color would endure Stan was white . Obama finally accepts that he’ll never be understood by his grandfather .
Franks says “he’s basically a good man . but he doesn’t know me . not the way I know him . Maybe some of these Hawaiians can , or the Indians on the reservation. they’ve seen their fathers humiliated . their mothers desecrated. But your grandfather will never know what it feels like “ . Frank was Obama’s mentor that he saw more than a couple of times and was also a Communist mentor . Frank was also around Obama’s grandfather Stan , Stan was very comfortable . The people who hired / worked for his family were treated badly . The women who took care of Obamas mothers Stanley Anne, was violently disrespected . Stan took no time to get to know his workers or to treat them with human decency . He’ll come home at peace with no worries while having a drink because not even a feather would touch him . His workers and friends saw more of his true identity than he would have given them recognition .
In this scene Obama realizes he’ll always feel utterly alone . his grandfather would never know how it felt to be mistreated . his grandparents normalized their bad behavior that he already had to deal with in the outside world . He accepted everything at once . the world would always have a stigma . He’ll continue to face hardship .