When did divorce become legal and how does divorce affect children’s life?
First, let’s start the decision of marriage which is the first step of the two lovers. A marriage is a contract where two lovers decide to live together, support each other at any moment, and process to never separate till their death. However, behind all those decisions the option of divorce still exists whenever everything goes wrong with them. The divorce option that we have nowadays has a history behind it that started it in 2000bc.From a youtube video the author mentioned that divorce back in the process was different where only the husband could ask for divorce. Otherwise, the husband can swipt his wife for another or send it home to his mother. Moreover,the catolic religion did not except it until the government are taking over everything and allow the people to divorce.After a few years when the woman has the right to divorce it was more harder for them to get it because they asking them for strong evidence which was not easy.But nowadays is way more different where the women and men has the right to ask for divorce.But the divorce should have a major reason behind it to be validated by the judge.In reality,divorce is really dangerous when the couple has children.This situation will change their life for ever if the adults don’t do their job. Which means that divorce can have negative effects on children. At the same time the divorce could have positive effects on the children.
In a marriage a child always sees their parents as role models because of the way they treat each other.As a result,the children will always feel comfortable when their parents are around for support and showing them love.However,when this couple decides to divorce it will create a huge impact in this children life.As result,both parents will not be there for them and they would feel one of their parents doesn’t love them anymore.In reality,the divorce hurt the children more than their parents, which could lead them to depression.According to Amy Morin, he claims that divorce could affect a children when they are young because they not mature enough to understand the of the divorce.In addition,Amy Morin said “that children could blame one of his parents for the causes of the divorces”. As a consequence,it will break up the parental relationship and that situation gets out of hand.The parents should think about the children before their getting a divorce and always making them show them love and their future.Â
 Moreover, the divorce will create another relationship for children which is a step dad or step mom.However,having a step mom or dad is not an easy thing for the children because they might not feel confortable.In some cases,parents always sees their happiness first where they had to forces the children to accept the new parents.This situation could dangerous for the children where they can get abuses by the new couples.On the other hand,the relationship between step dad or mom could work fine by showing this children love and attention like his parents.It’s not always easy to be a step parents especially when they not parents yet.It’s require a lot of effort for the step parent to love both people which is the partner and the children.On the other hand,the children might not like the step parent which make him blame the parents for divorced.In addition,some children will never accept someone else replace their biological parent.All those facts,is the problem that the divorce bring after years and all that drama make that kids angerÂ
In my personal life,I always met some people that have step fathers or mothers that live with them.They always told me that they had a good relationship with their step parents and sometimes they feel like they replace their father or mother.In addition,them step father are taking care of them paying their schools and go out with them.However,some of them people told that some step parents change with them when they got their own children.As a result,the children goes into a depressing moment where they their biological parents.The divorce of their parents from few years ago still affecting them again.them children they may not be a good parent in the future because they don’t really have family experiences.As a result they suffering a lot from their parents divorce however,their parents never see that because they put themselves first.
The divorce process also affect a children mentality where they have wrong thought about marriage.Due to the facts, they experiment and suffer from their parents separation,they might decide to never marry in the future.Them children are scared to experiment the same situation like their parent did,because they not believe in love.However,your parents experience will never be the same as yours,because people are different and you can make the best choice in your life.A divorce is really hard, but it should not mess a children future if both parents trying to do their job and show their children a better ways to find.In a articles of Britany Wong explaining her believe in marriage despite her parents were divorced. Brittany claims “The process of loving someone when you come from a divorce family is not easy ‘’’.As result she still creates the family that she wishes to have because her parents teach how to be single and being in love.In addition her parent experiment make her more stronger than ever to make her future shy.
The good side of the divorce comes from one parent’s fault.The children always want love from both sides and want both parents to take care of each other. For example,in some couples,the physical are always present, especially in front of the children.As a consequence,the children will not feel around the abuser and want to protect his mom.In this when the divorce come,the children feel happy even the family is break up but his mother is safe.Another,example is the absence of some mother in the parental job make the children feel lonely sometimes.This absence has a huge impact on the children,that would make them less care about the mother.When the family break up it would not feel the empty part,as a result they might connected with a stepmother.A couple should always show their children importance,and should not doing bad stuff in front of them.Because they will reproduce the same action in their future life.
Children living with divorced don’t really have a good life sometimes.The ignorance of some parents is making them suffer more, because they think the children will never understand what’s going on. In some cases,the children’s performance at school can be bad because they stress.An psychologue should be the best option for a child after their parents are getting divorce.The divorce parent should play the role of co-parents in their children’s life so they could feel loved and supported. It should be important to give children counseling to a couple before they get married so less children could be affected by divorce.However,when a couple without children has divorced it doesn’t hurt that much. The adults are so much stronger to get rid of a divorce, and they can both start their new life without worrying about. On the other hand,people do not divorce because these are children involved in the marriage.This is a hard situation for the adults because they will not feel happy and they are suffering.
In conclusion,divorce process is the hardest thing that can happen to a couple.The children are most suffering in that situation because they will miss their complet family.In addition,they have to start a new family with a step parent which could be good or bad.The co-parents should do a hard job to protect their children future and do not let them scare to make a family.Like Britany did they should their parent situation to be more stronger because love really exist.When children are involved in the marriage they should the priorite to be protectedÂ
sources:
https://www.verywellfamily.com/psychological-effects-of-divorce-on-kids-4140170
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