The Effects Of Self-Love In Romantic Relationships

After doing my proposal last week, along with the reviews from my fellow classmates and professor, I was able to narrow down my topic more on what I plan to research for my assignment. The topic I chose for my research paper is based on love, especially self-love within romantic relationships. As I stated in my previous proposal, “This topic interest me because I had a hard time loving myself when I was young in feeling that I did not belong because of who I am. Moving back and forth between Trinidad and New York, I had challenges making friends because I was afraid to put myself out there and did not want to get rejected for being myself.” Ever since I had those problems and feelings when I was young, it has affected me in ways of wondering if I will ever be good enough for someone I truly love. Therefore, for this research assignment, I want to explore how self-love impacts on romantic relationships, in a positive and negative way. Also, I hope to specifically learn the key elements of love and how to really implement it fully to myself. I think from doing this specific topic for my assignment, would give me a better understanding of it all and really help me to improve myself presently.

The first source that I found which relates to my topic is a book called, ‘All About Love,’ by Bell Hooks. This book will first ask you to practice deep and honest reflection about how you love and if it is really love at all, and then it would really set you free. It can be read as a self-help book but written more like a memoir and an academic text, with Hooks’ distinctly sharp style and analytical approach. Hooks delves into the ways we learn how to love by example, and what happens to those who do not have examples of love in their own lives. She unpacks cultural paradigms and dynamics about relationships, respect, and sex to ultimately forge a path toward love that is a verb, not a noun, that is sacred and true, both on a personal and collective, societal level.

The second source that I found which relates to my topic is an article intitled, ‘Self-Love Is the New #RelationshipGoals,’ by Davia Sills. As stated in the article, “Finding yourself means soul-searching the peaks and valleys of your life and seeing them as a necessary part of your growth. Having the ability to self-reflect means being comfortable spending time with yourself, devoid of shame and judgment, to work on you—your insecurities, strengths, flaws, and the valuable contributions that you have to offer to yourself and others. The ability to truly find happiness and love in yourself makes you more confident and self-assured in your love for others.” I totally agree with this statement because it explains how you need to learn to learn yourself first before you can love someone else.

The third source that I found which relates to my topic is an article intitled, ‘Self Care vs. Self Love: How to Love Yourself in a Relationship’ by Caitlin Killoren. As stated in the article, “In order to have a healthy relationship, both you and your partner need to be healthy yourselves. And, yes, physical health is always important, but that is not exactly what we mean here. We mean that both you and your partner need to be able to support and care for your own mental and emotional health.” I agree with this statement because it is something that I have been telling myself and really trying to work on.

The fourth source that I found which relates to my topic is an article intitled, ‘How to Develop Self-Love and Why This Will Strengthen Your Relationship,’ by Brad Alexander. A quote that I found in the article to be really intriguing was, “An outstanding love doesn’t come from two half-fulfilled people coming together to make one whole, complete life. Outstanding love comes from two whole people coming together to share and enhance their already full and beautiful lives.” (Pia Scade) This article talks about his experience and I really think that I can learn from him.

The fifth source that I found which relates to my topic is an article intitled, ‘The Importance of Treating Self-Love as a Relationship,’ by Courtney Harris Coaching. A quote that I found to be very admirable was, “Self-love is not a destination. It is a relationship. And like all relationships, it requires time, attention, care, and practice.” I really found that statement to be aspiring. As stated by the article, “When I think about self-love as a relationship, I feel a sense of understanding, patience, and compassion wash over me. And how poetic is it that these feelings are in alignment with the goal of self-love?! How does this idea of self-love as relationship land with you?”

The sixth source that I found which relates to my topic is website which includes advice intitled, ‘5 Reasons Why Self-Love is Important for Relationships,’ by Ruby Fremon. As stated by the article, “Everyone dreams of having a happily ever after type of relationship, but not everyone is willing to do the work required to get that type of relationship. You want to know the bold truth? Love is doomed without self-love. You need that foundation prior to stepping into relationships.” It also goes on to say, “Rather than jumping from unhappy relationship to unhappy relationship… take a break and utilize that time to get to know you. Instead of seeking the love you desire from others, find that love within you first. Self-love is the foundation upon which you build all your other relationships. Everything comes down to how much you love yourself.” I totally agree with this and I think I should really consider those words of wisdom.

Sources Cited:

1. Alexander, Brad. “How to Develop Self-Love & Why This Will Strengthen Your Relationship.” Tiny Buddha, 28 December 2020. https://tinybuddha.com/blog/strong-relationships-stem-self-love-develop/ Accessed on 04 May 2021.

This source contains the author’s experience and stories about self-love and how it improves relationships. This source is useful to my topic because it talks about learning self-love while in a relationship, and how to develop self-love if you are in a relationship. These include the areas of how to maintain a degree of space and independence, to remember you are the master of your own happiness, to see in yourself what your partner sees in you, to do not get disheartened when you see your flaws, to forgive yourself for your failings, and to remember love is an action (not a feeling). This source is reliable and should be taken seriously because I think it really relates to my topic on how self-love can improve the type of relationships you want to have in your life.

2. Coaching, Courtney Harris. “The Importance of Treating Self-Love as a Relationship.” 4 November 2020. https://courtneyharriscoaching.com/self-love-as-relationship/ Accessed on 04 May 2021.

This source contains information on seeing self-love as relationship, relationships love rituals, ideas for practicing self-love, and tapping into support. This source is useful to my topic because of the information that the author talks about. As stated in the article, “I like to think of rituals as containers for connection that we can count on. Rituals are practices that we return to again and again.” This source is reliable and should be taken seriously because I think it really relates to my topic on how the importance of self-love is important and how it is treated as a relationship too.

3. Fremon, Ruby. “5 Reasons Why Self-Love Is Important for Relationships.” The Latest Catch, 16 February 2016. https://blog.pof.com/2016/02/5-reasons-self-love-important-relationships/ Accessed on 04 May 2021.

This source contains information on the importance of self-love for relationships, along with reasons on why it is. This source is useful to my topic because it talks about the areas on how you will attract better, on how you will improve the quality of your relationships, on how you will show up differently in relationships, and on how your partners will treat you differently. This source is reliable and should be taken seriously because I think it really relates to my topic on the reasons of how self-love affects relationships in a positive way.

4. Hooks, Bell. “All about Love: New Visions.” Harper Perennial, 2018.

This source contains the ideas on; “1. Love is not what we thought it was, 2. Our culture praises the pursuit of materialism, and it is difficult to love others when we are so self-centered, 3. Self-love and spirituality are critical to having loving relationships with others, 4. People learn how to love from their families and friends, 5. Mutual growth and openness are the basis for love, 6. It’s not easy to fall in love and keep it going. We can’t control who we fall in love with, so we shouldn’t expect that to be the case.” This source is useful to my topic because discusses the problems with love, love’s definitions, honesty: the basis of love, the importance of self-love, and love and healing. This source is reliable and should be taken seriously because I think it really relates to my topic on how to pursue love, where you first must define what you want from your relationship and then act on that desire by pursuing the person who can give it to you.

5. Killoren, Caitlin. “Self-Care vs. Self Love: How to Love Yourself in a Relationship.” Relish, 3 September 2020. https://hellorelish.com/articles/how-to-love-yourself-in-a-relationship.html Accessed on 04 May 2021.

This source contains how to practice self-care in your relationship and how to practice self-love in your relationship. This source is useful to my topic because within the two stated topics in the previous sentence, they include focusing on taking time to be solo, setting boundaries, managing stress levels, being present, recognizing your feelings, and seeking spiritual connection. This source is reliable and should be taken seriously because I think it really relates to my topic on how to love yourself in a relationship and I feel like it really has valuable information that I can learn myself.

6. Sills, Davia. “Self-Love Is the New #RelationshipGoals.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 12 June 2019. www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/couples-thrive/201906/self-love-is-the-new-relationshipgoals#:~:text=With%20self%2Dlove%2C%20you%27,the%20need%20for%20external%20validation.&text=When%20you%20truly%20love%20yourself,and%20when%20to%20walk%20away Accessed on 04 May 2021.

This source contains six things to conquer in order to achieve self-love as the new #relationshipgoal. This source is useful to my topic because it explains how partners treat you the way they see you treat yourself, how more self-love will attract healthier relationships, how a relationship should be a partnership, not a codependent situation, how no one can make you happy the way you can make yourself happy, how to understand and accept that you cannot depend on other people to make you feel loved, and how people treat you the way they see you treat yourself. This source is reliable and should be taken seriously because I think it really relates to my topic on how self-love is really important within relationships.

Self-Help on Physical Health

I was told my last proposal on physical health wasn’t awful, it was just too broad. I thought because it wasn’t specific enough I would have to get rid of one or maybe two of my three areas of physical health and only focus on one but instead I was told to seek further information than what I was planning on doing. So because of this I will make it clear that my new research topic will be “How can you achieve good physical health on your own”. I will explain the relation between self-help and this topic. I will be getting rid of the emphasis on motivation because the role of motivation is obvious when it comes to this topic, so I will mention it as an obstacle, I just won’t make it part of my main prompt. Now I can focus specifically on physical health all while using research articles to support my claims.

My last proposal covered the 3 key points to maintaining physical health so aside from that, it is worth mentioning what makes physical health so useful as a self-help topic. Best selling fitness author, Sean Nalewanyj, explains in a blog he wrote titled “ Are personal trainers worth it”, why he believes most fitness trainers are not worth the time, effort and money. He mentions how the knowledge and credentials a fitness trainer has is not hard for the average person to attain and it would be much more beneficial to educate yourself on these things rather than get help from someone else. Also he says a lot of trainers that have the means to become a fitness trainer aren’t as qualified as the title suggests resulting in them making poor judgement time and time again. This is a good start for the topic on why self-help in this area is necessary in the first place.

Next, in an article titled “How to be your own personal trainer” written by certified health coach, Malia Frey, she explains different ways to get through physical training without the help of a fitness trainer, which is viewed as the most efficient way to go about improving physical health. This article helps look at specific ways to complete physical health training on your own. These tips are similar to the tips mentioned in the last proposal (planning meals, maintaining motivation etc.) but to go more in depth, I need to dig deeper into these ideas.

Beginning with healthy eating, the National Heart, Blood and Lung institute has a web page with information on what exactly it takes to eat healthy. The information consists of food that a person should be eating such as vegetables, fruits, whole grains, and fat-free or low-fat dairy products. The webpage also points out things that should be avoided such as trans fats, sodium, and added sugars. There is also a calories section of this page that explains the importance of calorie intake along with made meal plans for breakfast, lunch and dinner. With this information all that comes next is the scheduling which just comes down to preparation.

The motivation aspect remains the same, Paige Waehner, certified personal trainer, gives her tips on staying motivated when it comes to physical exercise as she mentions multiple different ideas that can keep a person’s motivation up such as discipline. The point of having discipline is so you can make a routine that you get into the habit of doing regardless. Mentally, this routine should already be happening, sort of like when you know you’re going to do something regardless of what happens, because it always happens, it’s just a matter of time and nothing else. There also needs to be a balance. Trying things that can’t be done is where a lot of people go wrong. Sticking to what is within your capabilities is the smartest way to get things done because then the whole routine doesn’t seem like such a drag, in fact, it might seem pretty easy.

There are many more mentioned throughout this article and so much information to be worked with, this proposal has a lot of potential.

Works Cited
Malia Frey, “How to Be Your Own Personal Trainer”, Very Well Fit, November 10, 2020
https://www.verywellfit.com/how-to-be-your-own-personal-trainer-3496019

“Healthy Eating Plan”, National Heart Lung and Blood Institute. Date Accessed, May 4, 2021
https://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/educational/lose_wt/eat/calories.htm

Paige Waehner, “Make Goals to Get More Motivation for Exercising” Very Well Fit, July 24, 2020
https://www.verywellfit.com/getting-motivated-to-exercise-1231391

THE POLARITY of  SELF-CONSCIOUS EMOTIONS

 

I wanted to take advantage of the close relationship between self-conscious emotions and mindfulness. So, I will be talking about the good and the bad sides of being emotionally self-conscious.

Most thoughts and information that enter our brain ignite a response known as emotion. But we are not always aware of what is that we are feeling and even worse we do not  always know how to handle such emotion. Being self-aware will lead you to be self-conscious of your emotions. However, there are 2 sides/consequences to being emotionally conscious. The good side says that one will feel satisfied, happy, proud, and socially responsible of one’s actions, but the bad side says that one will feel overwhelm, depress, anxious and helpless. Unfortunately, there is no wall that separates one side from the other so an individual can easily shift from one side to the other. This is why I find important to talk about the polarity of self-conscious emotions.

Feeling is a natural human response to a stimulus. Indeed, not feeling is considered a sign of sociopathy. Lewis, Sullivan, Stanger and Weiss drawn a model to show the order in how self-conscious emotions appear in our lives. They also said that there are 2 sets of self-conscious emotions. On the first group we have embarrassment, empathy, and envy and on the second/later group we have pride, shame, and guilt. But why do we call them self-conscious emotions? Why not just emotions? Well, Lewis, et al, explain that: “self-conscious emotions are characterized by self-referential behavior…these emotions appear before or around our second birthday. At the same time children learn about other aspects of their social world including rules of conduct that allow them to evaluate their own production and behavior (quoting Kagan 1981).” Likewise, the Department of Pediatrics of the Rutgers Medical School on its article entitled “Emotional Development” wrote that: “children emotional lives change when they develop self-awareness. This major milestone occurs sometime around 15 to 24 months of age”…”Self-awareness can be indexed by the emergence of visual self-recognition…”

As stated earlier the focus of this research is on the 2 sides (polarity) of self-conscious emotions. The good/positive/healthy side allows us to develop healthy social relationships because we are happy with ourselves as consequences of a normal self-evaluation and self-awareness of our emotions and actions. BUT on the other side, the bad one, excessive self-consciousness of our emotions causes us to dwell on our sadness, shame, or addiction. Consequently, making hard for the person to heal or focus on something else.

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CITED WORKS

Baumeister, Roy F., and Brad J. Bushman. Social Psychology and Human Nature. Cengage, 2021.

Legg, Timothy J. Ph.D., CRNP and Gotter, Ana. Self-Conscious Emotions. Healthline, June 25, 2017,  https://www.healthline.com/health/self-conscious-emotions. Accessed on April 30, 2021.

Lewis, Michael, et al. “Self-Development and Self-Conscious Emotions.” Child Development, vol. 60, no. 1, 1989, pp. 146–156. JSTOR, www.jstor.org/stable/1131080. Accessed 5 May 2021.

Rutgers, The State University of New Jersey. Emotional Development: Self and Self-Conscious Emotions.  Rutgers Medical School Department of Pediatrics, https://rwjms.rutgers.edu/departments/pediatrics/divisions/institute-for-the-study-of-child-development/research/emotional-development. Accessed on May 4, 2021.

 

 

Self Esteem in Early Adolescence

Self esteem can be described as how you view your own personal value. What you personally believe in yourself. Sometimes it can be linked to why you enjoy the things you enjoy or it could not be the things you enjoy. Who you have around you (your company).There are much more that can contribute to it like body weight, depression, media or even your childhood but those are just simple ones. One primary factor of self esteem determination can even be the clothing you choose to put on your body which is linked to bodyweight. I believe the Self Help Industry and Self Esteem are cousins to each other in this category and another reason why I choose to learn about this topic such as self esteem is something that we all struggle with at least once in our life.
Below I have four articles that deal with self esteem. Self Esteem in early adolescence as a predator of depressive symptoms in late and early Adolescence , What is Self Esteem, Families and school may play key roles in promoting Adolescence self confidence and last one at least, in Children and adolescence Low self esteem increases materialism. All three of these articles talk about different versions of self esteem, different ways it can be brought up from Adolescence to adulthood if not cured and he damages it can bring and self esteem identified by self worth. These articles also talk about how to cope/cure it. Different side effects, and a couple different theories brought out.
The first article “What is self esteem” by Kendra Cherry, she talks about self esteem as an overall value of “personal value” by giving different factors such as self belonging, identity and feeling of competence. Kendra also states that self esteem tends to be the lowest in childhood as it can gradually increase during adolescence as well as adulthood. This makes self esteem similar to stability to personal traits over time. If you have a handle on healthy self esteem, you may have a firm handle on your skills. Having a realistic and appropriate expectation on themselves and their abilities. People with low self esteem can feel less about their abilities and may doubt their decision making process. They might not feel motivated and able to reach their goals. The feeling of unworthy and lovable may come into existence. All of these different factors play a role in the self help industry by defining your individual expectations, individual needs as well as goals.
My second article “Self esteem in Early Adolescence as a Predator of depression symptoms in late and early adolescence” M.Masselink, E.Van Roekel and A.J. Oldehinkel. According to this article, it talks about the prevalence of depression as it increases sharply from around 2% in early adolescence to around 18% in early adulthood .Many factors contribute to this surge and the contribution to depression during adolescence. They say low self esteem has been an important factor that increases vulnerability to depression. In many research studies, it shows that low self esteem and depressive symptoms often occur among adolescents. The article states that “Self esteem levels tend to decrease in early adolescence and increase in later adolescence but those who have lower levels of self-esteem than others at one time point are likely to have lower self esteem than others at the following time point as well”. They say this is because self-esteem is stable and enduring vulnerability. Many of the development challenges that adolescence face revolve around their position in their environment. Challenges such as moving from school to school, new networks, challenging relationships with family members, adapting to more of an adult role over the course of the time.
My third article “Families and schools play a key role in promoting adolescent self-confidence” by Pen state. Many studies examined the variety of affected adolescents` self efficacy. This article stated a rage of ideas dealing with family, schools and human development. This is a quote from the article that states” They found that adolescents who frequently witnessed their parents arguing or engaging in other forms of conflict experience lower self-efficacy later on”. They are saying who witnessed their parents argue when they were in the adolescence stage carried over to when they are older and it had a cerian effect on them. However their success in school as well as receiving support from “peers”, this was able to help compensate for family problems and would help boost self-efficacy. The healthier you are with your partner, the better you are off with your child.
My final article “In children and Adolescents, Low Self-esteem increases Materialism” by the Chicago Press Journals. This article talks about materialism increases during adolescence but decreases in late adolescence during the transition into young adulthood. In a forthcoming study, they found that children of different age groups self esteem increase from Middle childhood(8-9 years old), to early adolescence (12-13 years old) but then declines during adolescence until the end of highschools. They say this materialism, which increases in early adolescence but decreases in late adolescence which transitions into adulthood. “Our results indicate that simple actions to raise self-esteem among young consumers can have a dramatic impact on expressions of materialism” Chaplin and John write. “By priming high self esteem, we reversed the large drop in self esteem experiment by early adolescence, thereby reducing the steep rise in materialism among this group”.

Sources
Cherry, Kendra. “‘What Is Self Esteem.’” Https://Www.verywellmind.com/What-Is-Self-Esteem-2795868.
Masselink, M., et al. “Self-Esteem in Early Adolescence as Predictor of Depressive Symptoms in Late Adolescence and Early Adulthood:The Mediating Role Of Motivational and Social Factors.” Https://Www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/Pmc/Articles/PMC5878202/.
State, Penn. “Families and Schools May Play Key Roles in Promoting Adolescent Self-Confidence .” Https://Www.sciencedaily.com/Releases/2019/03/190313114739.Htm.
Chicago press Journals, University of. “In Children And Adolescents, Low Self-Esteem Increases Materialism.” Https://Www.sciencedaily.com/Releases/2007/11/071112133809.Htm.

The Privilege of it All; What does Self Care look like for those in a lower class?

For my research topic, I am choosing to talk about the lack of realization within the Self Help community when it comes to Self Care for those in lower classes. The reason why I’m choosing this topic is that coming from a lower-income area, I’ve witnessed, and grown up with great people who end up making not the best choices, and I can only think about the difference self-care could have made to help their mental health, which would lead them to make better decisions. 

      I’ve found four articles to help me expand on this topic. The first article I found is called “What Happens When You Can’t Afford Self-Care”, in this article Stephanie Land speaks on her personal experience being of a lower income and trying to practice self-care. Within the article, she speaks about how she doesn’t have the ability to practice self-care because all her time is spent trying to survive. She also speaks on how after working all the time to support her and her family, she is left exhausted with no energy left to practice these luxurious practices of self-care. And even with how much she works, she simply can’t afford to “see a therapist” or “pay for a massage” to treat her scoliosis

      The next article is “Prioritising Your Mental Health Is A Privilege That Many Can’t Afford” by Marianne Eloise. In this article, Eloise speaks on how much better her mental health has gotten due to her now being able to afford to take care of it. She speaks on her journey of mental disorders and how her coming from a low-income house and spending most of her time as a young adult working and in school, left her no time or money to practice self-care.

     This next article I love because the author first starts off describing how “abstract” the world of self-care was to them, growing up in a Latinx family. In “Self-Care Is A Privilege That Shouldn’t Be One”, Ren Aguilara” speaks on the lack of accessibility of self-care practices. And how self-help is presented as this one size fits all thing, but the views typically come from those of privilege and do not take into account the responsibilities and the lack of resources within marginalized communities. 

      The last article “White People, We Need to Talk About ‘Self-Care” by Anna Borges, specifically speaks about how those in Privilege, and in this case specifically white people, might use Self Care, as an excuse to tune out of important social issues. This article was written last year not only during the pandemic but during the BLM protest. Writer Borges, seen a lot of tweets from privileged individuals speaking about how stressful all the news is, and how taking a break from it and practicing self-care is important. While Borges acknowledges that, that may be true, she also acknowledges that even the ability for those in privileged positions to take a “step back” from these issues, is a great indicator of their privilege. And how with taking their mental health into consideration they should not simply ignore the issues and should not only practice self-care but also community care.

Works Cited

Aguilera, Ren. “Self-Care Is A Privilege That Shouldn’t Be One.” Medium, Medium, 9 June 2020, renaguilar-5151.medium.com/self-care-is-a-privilege-that-shouldnt-be-one-460f83fab3a4.

Borges, Anna. “White People, We Need to Talk About ‘Self-Care’.” SELF, 10 June 2020, www.self.com/story/white-people-self-care. 

Eloise, Marianne. “Prioritising Your Mental Health Is A Privilege That Many Can’t Afford.” Self Care Is A Privilege, 21 Oct. 2019, www.refinery29.com/en-gb/privilege-mental-health-therapy. 

Land, Stephanie. “What Happens When You Can’t Afford Self-Care.” Talk Poverty, 13 June 2016, talkpoverty.org/2016/06/13/when-you-cant-afford-self-care/. 

Class Notes: Thursday (04/29)

After taking attendance at the beginning of the class, professor noted the agenda for the day’s class. We took about 20 minutes for peer review on our research topic project, about 5 minutes each for quickly skimming through and dropping a comment on each fellow classmates’ post. Then we looked over our own proposals and gave ourselves a critical comment. Professor also did the same by giving us a little advice and tips on how to improve and to narrow down our topics more.

Then we discuss an overall feedback as a class:

  • Courtney liked how everyone were able to have the title of their research proposal really connect to what their topic was about and what they were saying
  • Reem thought everyone had a personal connection in the topic they chose
  • Professor states that everyone needs to focus more on their topics; key terms; relation to self-help; background research, etc.

Then we moved on to individually doing more research on our topics for the revised proposal post that is due next week.

 

For Next Week’s Class on Tuesday 05/04 (asynchronous class):

  1. Read – Individual Research for Final Project
  2. Due – Work on revised research proposals & annotations (due Wednesday 05/05)
  3. Class Notes will not be done because we will not meet as a class via Zoom.

 

For Next Week’s Class on Thursday 05/06:

  1. Read – Individual Research for Final Project
  2. Due – Revised Research Proposals & Annotated Sources (due Wednesday 05/05)
  3. Class Notes will be done by Courtney.

 

Self-Motivation For Physical Health

Great health is something we all desire and a huge part of that is our physical health and keeping our body in shape. With good physical health you feel good and you look good. Also to make these exercises work you need to change your diet. On top of that you need to get a good amount of sleep. Now all of this is easier said than done, not eating your favorite foods is a task a lot of people fail and struggle with. Telling yourself while you’re extremely comfortable to go and push your body to uncomfortable limits is a nightmare for some people. Lastly, mixing your schedule around to go to sleep early and wake up on time could be really hard for some people.

The main issue with all of these is the self motivation that comes with the hard work of physical health. Many people hire a trainer and that makes everything much easier, the motivation almost isn’t needed because you have someone to push you. But when you are all alone all you have is yourself to push you and at times it feels almost impossible to my proposal is to cover the self-help topic of motivation specifically for physical health.

There are many articles covering the motivation to succeed in the 3 areas necessary for good physical health. Personal Trainer and fitness writer, Paige Waehner, discusses tips on finding motivation tips for physical exercise in her article called “Get Motivated to Exercise When You’re Off Track”. The National Sleep Foundation, a company of health experts devoted to finding helpful information for sleep, has an article titled “How to Go to Bed Earlier” discussing tips for getting into the habit of going to sleep early. This results in a healthier sleep with not much hassle. Finally, Franziska Spritzler, a qualified health expert in the area of nutrition and dieting, discusses tips for maintaining a healthy diet in the article “14 Simple Ways to Stick to a Healthy Diet”.
I know I broke the physical health portion into 3 groups but it is all one topic, not just help motivating yourself which was my original prompt, but help motivating yourself to obtain great physical health.

Works Cited

Paige Waehner, “Make Goals to Get More Motivation for Exercising” Very Well Fit, July 24, 2020
https://www.verywellfit.com/getting-motivated-to-exercise-1231391

National Sleep Foundation, “How to Finally Go to Bed Earlier-And Feel Refreshed Every Morning” Sleep.org, February 09, 2021
https://www.sleep.org/go-bed-earlier/

Franziska Spritzler, “14 Simple Ways to Stick to a Healthy Diet”, Healthline, April 17, 2019
https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/14-ways-to-stick-to-a-diet

Examining & Overcoming Anxiety

My research topic will be on tackling anxiety through self-help, and also reviewing the positive and negative effects of it. Being someone who struggles with social anxiety, I found that meditating over the past two weeks had helped me work through one of my fears– presenting (although I still have to continue to test this out). I’m still doing nightly meditations to see what other areas of myself I can improve on. However I do recognize that many people with anxiety cannot find the peace they are truly seeking. I’m hoping to explore how mindfulness/ meditation may be beneficial or harmful to one’s mental health, and how to actually help those that don’t find a away to completely remove, or at least slightly lessen, their anxiety.

I found a couple of articles that I’m hoping to incorporate pieces of in this research project. The first article titled “The Role of Self-help in the Treatment of Mild Anxiety Disorders in Young People: An Evidence-based Review”, introduces what anxiety is and discusses different types of self-help interventions that may be helpful in reducing anxiety. This article also includes different case studies that back their findings. 

The second article titled “How to Meditate with Anxiety” does just as its name suggests. Here you’ll find tips on how to fully dive into meditation. It also introduces Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT), which is similar to another topic (MSBR- Mindfulness-based stress reduction) we briefly read about and discussed for class through the 3 mindfulness articles. 

The third article titled “How Does Meditation Reduce Anxiety at a Neural Level?”, examines how meditation affects your brain, specifically “which areas of the brain are activated and which are deactivated during meditation-related anxiety relief”. A study was also developed in order to back their findings. Another similar article I found that also looks at how your brain waves change before and after meditation is titled “The Many Benefits of Meditation for Anxiety, How It Helps”. 

The next two articles explore the negative effects meditation could have on those who suffer from anxiety. The article titled “7 Surprising Ways Meditating Could Be Hurting You” just gives brief reasons and descriptions as to how people can be negatively impacted, which will help me further my findings as I do more research on these specific issues.

The last article titled “Meditation Might Not Be a Good Fit for Everyone—Here’s Why” talks about a woman named Eva who suffers from severe anxiety and didn’t find the meditation app she downloaded to be useful for her at all. The app actually ended up worsening how she normally felt, which is not uncommon for those who consistently suppress their feelings or those who suffer from intrusive thoughts. Learning how to meditate can be too overwhelming since you have to face your issue head on. But this article also includes how someone like Eva, may be able to slowly work up to meditation or any other mindfulness technique.

Sources:

Bergland, Christopher. “How Does Meditation Reduce Anxiety at a Neural Level?” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 7 June 2013, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-athletes-way/201306/how-does-meditation-reduce-anxiety-neural-level.

Greenwood, Chelsea. “7 Surprising Ways Meditating Could Be Hurting You.” Insider, Insider, 21 Mar. 2018, www.insider.com/why-meditation-can-be-bad-2018-3#1-it-may-prompt-negative-thinking-1.

“The Many Benefits of Meditation for Anxiety, How It Helps.” The Ultimate Guide To Mastering Anxiety, EOC Institute, eocinstitute.org/meditation/8-reasons-meditation-best-natural-anxiety-relief-technique/?9826714z3y5.

Rickwood, Debra, and Sally Bradford. “The Role of Self-Help in the Treatment of Mild Anxiety Disorders in Young People: an Evidence-Based Review.” Psychology Research and Behavior Management, Dove Medical Press, 27 Feb. 2012, www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3304342/.

Ries, Julia. “Meditation Might Not Be a Good Fit for Everyone-Here’s Why.” Well+Good, Well+Good, 5 Dec. 2019, www.wellandgood.com/meditation-side-effects/.

Staff, Mindful. “How to Meditate with Anxiety.” Mindful, Mindful, 16 May 2020, www.mindful.org/mindfulness-meditation-anxiety/.

 

 

The Aftermath of Schizophrenia and Meditation Meeting Proposal

Research Topic/Title-

            The topic I would like to explore is the negative effects of using meditation as a treatment for schizophrenia. Is it a viable treatment option? The negative side affects documented in several trials as well as personal accounts will allow me to come to a consensus. The title I would like to use is  “The Aftermath of Schizophrenia and Meditation Meeting”. By looking at the side effects from both schizophrenia and meditation then going deeper will show me the bigger picture. 

Background

  1. Schizophrenia 

According to the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH)  “Schizophrenia is a serious mental illness that affects how a person thinks, feels, and behaves. People with schizophrenia may seem like they have lost touch with reality, which causes significant distress for the individual, their family members, and friends. If left untreated, the symptoms of schizophrenia can be persistent and disabling. However, effective treatments are available. When delivered in a timely, coordinated, and sustained manner, treatment can help affected individuals to engage in school or work, achieve independence, and enjoy personal relationships.”    NIMH » Schizophrenia (nih.gov)

Possible side effects are but not limited to the following according the Mayo Clinic;

  • Delusions. These are false beliefs that are not based in reality. For example, you think that you’re being harmed or harassed; certain gestures or comments are directed at you; you have exceptional ability or fame; another person is in love with you; or a major catastrophe is about to occur. Delusions occur in most people with schizophrenia.
  • Hallucinations. These usually involve seeing or hearing things that don’t exist. Yet for the person with schizophrenia, they have the full force and impact of a normal experience. Hallucinations can be in any of the senses, but hearing voices is the most common hallucination.
  • Disorganized thinking (speech). Disorganized thinking is inferred from disorganized speech. Effective communication can be impaired, and answers to questions may be partially or completely unrelated. Rarely, speech may include putting together meaningless words that can’t be understood, sometimes known as word salad.
  • Extremely disorganized or abnormal motor behavior. This may show in a number of ways, from childlike silliness to unpredictable agitation. Behavior isn’t focused on a goal, so it’s hard to do tasks. Behavior can include resistance to instructions, inappropriate or bizarre posture, a complete lack of response, or useless and excessive movement.
  • Negative symptoms. This refers to reduced or lack of ability to function normally. For example, the person may neglect personal hygiene or appear to lack emotion (doesn’t make eye contact, doesn’t change facial expressions or speaks in a monotone). Also, the person may lose interest in everyday activities, socially withdraw or lack the ability to experience pleasure.
  • In men, schizophrenia symptoms typically start in the early to mid-20s. In women, symptoms typically begin in the late 20s. It’s uncommon for children to be diagnosed with schizophrenia and rare for those older than age 45.

Schizophrenia – Symptoms and causes – Mayo Clinic

Meditation Side effects

Not specifically limited to individuals with mental health issues, but is known to happen in anyone is the following;

9 Meditation Side Effects So Dangerous You Cannot Ignore Them (thedailymeditation.com)

  • Anxiety-Research shows that some methods may, in fact, harm people with a history of anxiety and depression.

    Such people may feel increased anxiety, fear, stress, panic and low moods when meditating. Research conducted by Brown University neuroscientist Dr Willoughby Britton showed that feelings of fear and anxiety are a common negative effect of meditation.

    Dr. Britton has stated that during a retreat she felt like she “was having a nervous breakdown.” She later learned that intense practices could lead to symptoms severe enough to warrant a psychiatric diagnosis (1).

    Sarah Bowen, a researcher at the University of Washington, suggests that people who have a history of depression or anxiety should only meditate under expert guidance in case stressful, painful or upsetting thoughts do arise.

    Neurobiologist Dr Nancy Hayes, states that “Patients with emotional disorders may have adverse reactions to meditation.”

  • Seizures-Neuroscientist Dr. Michael Persinger at Leurentian University of Canada researched the relationship between seizures and meditation. In 1993 he studied 1,018 meditators. The results of his research show that meditation can lead to symptoms of partial epilepsy, including hearing voices, feeling vibrations and experiencing visual abnormalities. Epileptic patients suffer from auditory and visual hallucinations, with many believing that they have spiritual experiences, including speaking with God.

    Persinger has subsequently researched the experience of so-called “spiritual events.” In his tests, Persinger had patients wear helmets through which were passed electrical signals that led to magnetically induced seizures. Four out of every five of his test subjects stated that they had experienced a spiritual event.

  • Hypersensitivity To Light And Sound and Movement Problems

Brown University researchers recently interviewed 100 meditators and teachers and asked them about the side effects that they had experienced. A significant portion of the interviewees stated that they had been experiencing hypersensitivity to light and sound, as well as insomnia, occasional involuntary movements, and feelings of fear, anxiety and panic.

Newberg observed that blood flow to the posterior superior parietal lobe decreased during meditation (10). This is the part of the brain involved with navigating our environment. “Patients with damaged posterior superior parietal lobes often cannot move without falling,” he tells us. He also states that oneness (the state in which we feel we are one with our surroundings) could have hidden negative side effects. By blocking blood flow to the posterior superior parietal lobe, you “lose the boundary between yourself and the rest of the world.” This can lead to disorientation and falls.

  • It Brings Up Painful Memories

    When you meditate, your mind relaxes more than usual. Many people who are new to the practice have never experienced such a deep level of inner stillness. Because of this calmness, you become more aware of your mind and your thoughts. Some of those thoughts are unpleasant. For instance, you may notice painful memories. And this might make you feel upset. However, although this can seem like a negative, it is an opportunity to change the way you think and feel.

  • Mental atrophy

    Another study into the negative side effects of meditation was conducted by Arthur Chappell, a former Maharaj devotee. He states that the practice “Deprives the mind of stimulus”, leading to sensory deprivation.

 

 

 Meditation side effects

Sources: 

3:Meditation May Predispose to Epilepsy https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15617849

4: Dark Side of Meditation http://healthland.time.com/2013/09/17/aaron-alexis-and-the-dark-side-of-meditation/

5: Effects of meditation https://www.researchgate.net/publication/288468969_Effects_of_meditation_on_brain_electrical_activity

6: Mental Health And Intense Meditation Retreats https://zensydney.com/Mental-Health-and-Intensive-Meditation-Retreats

7:Study documents range of challenging meditation experiences https://www.brown.edu/news/2017-05-24/experiences

8: Meditation may cause negative side effects https://www.today.com/health/meditation-may-cause-negative-effects-some-study-finds-t111957

 

Self Esteem

My research topic will be on self Esteem

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Self esteem can be described as how you view your own personal value. The article states different factors that can contribute to the idea. Self esteem can be lowest in your adolescence and could possibly carry on through adulthood. Self esteem can impact your everyday life resulting in decision making, your emotional health, relationship, as well as motivation.

Low self esteem can lead to feeling down on sunny days. They might not feel motivated to do everyday activities (you would buy more and more just to fill that void of affection that is missing from yourself). Certain issues with relationships and their personal goals can affect their self worth as well as simple things such as feeling loved.

High self esteem can be considered as overestimating yourself, (you might think you are better than you are, full of yourself). They could as well struggle, or block themselves from self growth because they think they are “perfect” already so no need for growth.

Factors that can affect self esteem:
-Body weight
-Disability
-Family’s genes (genetics),history
-Social/economic status
-Education status
-Job
-Career
-Life
-Relationship
-Sexual orientation

I will be able to compare and contrast the different modes of self esteem.