Is self-consciousness of emotions a good thing to do?

ABSTRACT

 Most thoughts, information and visuals/audio that enter our brain ignite a first response known as emotion. But we are not always aware of these emotions and we do not always know how to handle such emotion either. So, is self-consciousness of emotions a good thing to do?  Being self-conscious will help you to get to recognize your emotions and gain some control over  them.

Self-consciousness is not the same than self-awareness. Self-awareness is when one thinks of one existence as a human being in the present time. And self-consciousness is to be aware of our surroundings, aware of our actions and the things/qualities we have.  An Emotional experience can lead to formation of feeling. However, feelings and emotions are not the same. Emotions are brief physiological responses from our bodies to a given stimulus, they usually go away quickly too but they come back if the stimulus repeats E.g., anger, embarrassment, envy, empathy, etc. While feelings are mental associations acquired through experience, and they do not go away that quick. E.g., love, resentment, compassion, depression, etc. An emotion can be the beginning of a feeling that will develop later. And feelings can sometimes be expressed through emotions like when you are smiling because you saw the person you are in love with, or when you cry because you are depressed. Therefore, it is said that emotions and feelings are two sides of the same coin. Likewise, there are 2 sides to being emotionally conscious. The good and the bad sides. The positive  side says that one will feel satisfied, happy, proud, and socially responsible of one’s actions, but the toxic side says that one will feel overwhelmed, depress, anxious and helpless. Unfortunately, there is no wall that separates one side from the other so an individual can easily shift from one side to the other while practicing self-consciousness of  emotions.

Self-consciousness of emotions develops in 2 stages. The first group is composed of embarrassment, empathy, and envy. While the second group is conformed of  guilt, shame, and pride. Self- consciousness of emotions appears in our lives around our second year of life and only after the toddler develops self-recognition. In other words, if the infant cannot even recognize himself in a picture or in the mirror, there is no way he can be self-conscious of his/her emotions. Nevertheless, such infant does experience emotions regardless of not being conscious about them. The second group of self-conscious emotions develop only after the toddler has capacity to understand some basic social rules that allow him/her to express either (1) shame (for failing a task), (2) guilt (of doing something not acceptable), or (3) pride (for successfully achieving a required chore). This develops usually after 30 months old.

Bottomline, being conscious of your emotions and having discipline (to not fall into the bad or extreme side) is a must because only when you know about the problem, you can do something about it. Therefore, in a journey of self-help, it will be necessary to practice self- consciousness of emotions but with caution to not overdo because exaggerating this habit will lead to overwhelming and not being able to move on.

 

 

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Legg, Timothy J. Ph.D., CRNP and Gotter, Ana. Self-Conscious Emotions. Healthline, June 25, 2017,  https://www.healthline.com/health/self-conscious-emotions. Accessed on April 30, 2021.

 

Lewis, Michael, et al. “Self-Development and Self-Conscious Emotions.” Child Development, vol. 60, no. 1, 1989, pp. 146–156. JSTOR, www.jstor.org/stable/1131080. Accessed 5 May 2021.

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The Importance of Self-Love Within Romantic Relationships

When it comes to self-love in romantic relationships, we tend to focus on the mental, physical, and spiritual growth in oneself, specifically the positive and negative impacts it can have on the partner itself. This topic interest me because I had a hard time loving myself when I was young in feeling that I did not belong because of who I am. Moving back and forth between Trinidad and New York, I had challenges making friends because I was afraid to put myself out there and did not want to get rejected for being myself. Ever since I had those problems and feelings when I was young, it has affected me in ways of wondering if I will ever be good enough for someone I truly love.

As stated by the article intitled, ‘Self-Love and What It Means,’ “Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve.” Love is important in all relationships, and it is especially important to love yourself. If you do not love yourself, then how can you expect others to? One way to start loving yourself more is by thinking about your past and noticing when you began having negative feelings about yourself.

Self-awareness is not enough to make us love ourselves. We need to understand the negative feelings we have about ourselves and why we have had those feelings in the past. That way, we can begin a process of changing our thoughts about who we are and how much value we place on ourselves. To increase self-love and heal personal wounds, one must first build up their self-esteem. However, most of us grow up believing that negative assessments about ourselves are rational or reasonable. We believe this because we hear these negative thoughts from our inner voice all the time.

Self-love plays a pretty big role in one’s relationships with others. When one shifts their mindset to view their relationship with their self just like any other relationship, they desire with someone else, their relationship will thrive. Do not forget that the relationship one has with their self is the one relationship that one knows for sure they are going to have for the rest of life, so why not make it the best relationship?

Ajah Shann-Cover Letter

Ajah Shann-Research Presentation

How to obtain acceptable physical health.

When it comes to self care, a lot of topics are very important because it’s all about changing a person for the better but of all the self-care topics one of the most important ones, if not, the most important one, is physical health. Physical health is called physical health because it involves improving the physical aspect of the human body, so how a person not only looks physically but feels physically is all reliant on physical health. Because physical health is so noticeable in a person it is very necessary to take good care of, which is why this topic is important. 

The 5 major topics hygiene, medical, diet, sleep, and fitness are all very important topics to analyze physical health starting with hygiene. Hygiene is the grooming aspect of physical health. Medical is the healing aspect of physical health and it is taking good care of minor and major illnesses appropriately. Diet is the nutrition aspect of physical health. Sleep is the resting aspect of physical health and in many cases, the easiest one. Lastly is fitness, which can be understood as the hardest aspect of physical health. Fitness is the exercise aspect of physical health and it involves physical activity and keeping your muscle strength up to par along with endurance.

Because these things can be so hard there are many tools out there to help with the process and many professionals to help. For example, David Kirsch who’s a wellness visionary and a qualified professional wrote a book called “The Ultimate New York Body Plan” which gives advice on fitness training. Kirsch also has a book called “The Ultimate New York Diet” which is more focused on how to eat properly. There are also many people who have first hand experiences and would give great advice, for example those who went through weight loss journeys. Becky Brown, writer and health coach is a person who participated in weight loss training and wrote about her experiences in an article online in which she lost over 100 pounds. 

Research Presentation

Cover Letter

How to obtain acceptable physical health

 

Physical Health is one of the many areas of self-care and probably the most noticeable one. The fact that one’s physical health is so noticeable makes it really important, however doing so is easier said than done. Physical health is health involving hygiene, medical, diet, sleep, and fitness so to truly have acceptable physical health, these 5 are completely necessary. Because these 5 areas are essential to obtaining good physical health, I will be researching each topic individually and explaining the importance of each one and how to take full advantage of each area.
Credibility is huge for topics like this because of the advice given so because of that it is necessary to mention those with a lot of credibility to the topic. Personal Trainer and Strength Coach, Joe Dowdell who I’ll reference on his fitness advice along with Wellness Visionary, David Kirsch. Kirsch is not only a professional in the area of physical health, but he has books written on both the area of fitness and the area of dieting which are two major components when it comes to improving your physical health which I’ll be referencing. Another reference I feel like would be very helpful to incorporate is those who practiced physical health a lot simply because they were very unhealthy/out of shape. To be more specific I will look into those who have been on the television show “The Biggest Loser”, aside from the fact that it’s just a show for entertainment, I feel like these people who forced themselves to lose a lot of weight must have information that some fitness trainers don’t even have. The physical health training they put themselves through is definitely worth mentioning. 

Lastly, the relationship between self-help and physical health. I want to go in depth about how important physical health is as a self-help topic. It wouldn’t make much sense to just write about HOW to achieve good physical health and not write about WHY we should do this in the first place.

RobbyDeleonPresentation

The Privilege of it All; What does Self Care look like for those in a lower class?

The research presented, takes a look at what self-care looks like in those who are in a lower class. Within doing that, what is also being presented is the “one size fit- all” aspect of self-care, but the “one size” is typically white people and in this case white women.  Self-care ideas go back centuries and many of the tools used in the industry stem from Buddhism. As the years continued, self-care became a booming 11 million dollar industry due to the simple fact the industry has expanded. There are books, videos, social media accounts, retreats, etc, all created about self-care. But this increased commodification has drawn the industry even further away from being a “one-size-fits-all” fix because those who want to practice the self-care that is presented and do not come from a place of privilege,  are now limited in their ability to do so. Poverty can affect people of any ethnicity and race but this research dives deeper into how self-care looks for BIPOC who are from a lower class. In the era of The 1950s- 70s, the Civil Rights Movement used the ideas of self-care radically and as a political statement. And the Women’s liberation movement followed suit. Their motive behind doing so was to expose the systematic injustice created by white patriarchy. These two groups felt that their needs were not being taken care of within society so they used self-care as an ode to taking back some of their power. Fast forward several years later, with self-care practices becoming so extensive and expensive, it is difficult for BIPOC to utilize that aspect of self-care as it has derived from its origins. Self-care is presented as something that everyone has the ability to do, and there is potential for it to become that. But as the industry continues to commodify itself, more and more people are being excluded.

Presentation: The Privilege of it All (English Presentation)

The Importance of Self-Love

As stated by the article intitled, ‘Self-Love and What It Means,’ “Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve.” The purpose of this paper is to explain the importance of self-love and in romantic relationships, especially the positive and negative impacts it has. The importance of self-love first comes from within, which focuses on the areas of things such as moving away from perfectionism, self-compassion, learning to listen to yourself, doing yoga and meditation, and many more.

Practice self-love by becoming mindful. People who have more self-love tend to know what they think, feel, and want. Another action is taking actions based on need rather than want. By staying focused on what one needs, it can help turn away from automatic behavior patterns that get one into trouble, keep one stuck in the past, and lessen self-love. One also needs to act on practicing good self-care. One can love their self more when they take better care of their basic needs. People high in self-love nourish themselves daily through healthy activities, like sound nutrition, exercise, proper sleep, intimacy, and healthy social interactions. Lastly, there is making room for healthy habits. One should start truly caring for their self by mirroring that in what they eat, how they exercise, and what they spend time doing. Do stuff, not to “get it done” or because one “have to,” but because one care about their self. Self-love plays a pretty big role in one’s relationships with others. When one shifts their mindset to view their relationship with their self just like any other relationship, they desire with someone else, their relationship will thrive. Do not forget that the relationship one has with their self is the one relationship that one knows for sure they are going to have for the rest of life, so why not make it the best relationship?

Presentation: Importance of Self-Love

Research Project + Presentations

Self Esteem Project Abstract

Self esteem is something that everyone struggles with at least once in their life. It does not matter where you are from, who you are ,how big or small you are, or what you stand for (your beliefs). In particular self esteem in the early adolescence period can affect many things including the following. Families, schools and the lifestyle of an individual which play a key role .The stability of handling your personal skills, the ability to interact with peers and the ability to boost self-efficacy. Self esteem can simply affect your perspective on life, it also tends to be the lowest in childhood as it can gradually increase during the adolescence period as well as adulthood. With this being said, self esteem is much similar to stability of personal traits over time (variation of change over time). If you have a firm/healthy handle on personal traits, you may have a firm handle on your skills. Success in school as well as receiving support from peers all contributed to help compensate for family problems and would help boost self-efficacy.

As anyone with low self esteem may feel less obligated to make or reach personal goals for themselves. Having a firm supportive cast can change the mindset of the individual and the response toward their goals or overall perspective and approach on any or all situations resulting in an outcome being positive. Depression in early adolescence increases sharply from around 2% to 18% in early adulthood. Low self esteem has been an important factor that lead to vulnerability in depression.

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THE POLARITY (2 sides) of SELF- CONSCIOUS EMOTIONS

Like 2 sides of a coin self-consciousness can be either good or bad depending on how one uses it. Unfortunately, there is no physical wall that separates the good from the bad side. So, a person can easily fall into the bad side of self-consciousness while attempting to get into the good side. The good side can be defined as the healthy way to live out your emotions. While the bad side can be defined as the negative way of handling your emotions. It is important to distinguish emotions from feelings. Emotions are formed at the spot, as a response to a stimulus and some experts are able to measure emotions. Whereas feelings are formed over time in our minds (mental associations) consequently measuring them is not possible, at least not in an accurate way yet. The importance of self-awareness of our emotions goes beyond the individual, it is also necessary to create healthy social relationships. Self- emotions appear in our lives around our second year of life and only after we develop self-recognition. In other words, if the infant can not even recognize himself in a picture or in the mirror, there is no way he can have self-awareness of his/her emotions. Nevertheless, such infant does experience emotions, he/she just has no reach yet the “self-consciousness of emotions” milestone. It is also worthy to note that self-consciousness of emotions develops in 2 stages. The first group is composed of embarrassment, empathy, and envy. While the second group is conformed of  guilt, shame, and pride. This second group develop only after the toddler has capacity to understand some basic social rules that allow him/her to express either (1) shame (for failing a task), (2) guilt (of doing something not acceptable), or (3) pride (for successfully achieving a required chore).

Bottomline, being aware of your emotions and having discipline (to not fall into the bad or extreme side) is a must because only when you know about the problem, you can do something about it. Awareness and knowledge are the first step, honesty is the second and discipline & consistency are the third step in order to be on the good side of self-consciousness of emotions.

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