The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is a very interesting self-help book. Of the books we read so far it was definitely the best one in my opinion. “The secret” was too unrealistic and while the Samuels Smiles text might’ve been factual and helpful, it was very hard to understand fully. That being said the Stephen Covey text had a mix of both, the text was interesting and it was reasonable. The title of the book says it all, it explains the 7 habits that highly effective people use and it explains how if anyone were to apply these things to themselves, then being a highly effective person is basically inevitable.
This text uses the word Paradigm a lot and it’s saying that the idea of being right or wrong is a negative character trait and to be effective we should try looking differently. This way, we can have a more open mindset to the world. The author uses many stories and in these stories it shows people assuming things that lead to them regretting the assumption. I believe this is mentioned to give the impression that if a person were constantly looking at things from another perspective, they would assume less and less and would be in that situation less. It would also result in a mindset that is much more healthy and knowledgeable.
The first habit that is mentioned is being proactive and refraining from being reactive. Reactive people are people who feel like everything happens to them and they aren’t in control of anything while proactive people feel the need to create and take responsibility. The second habit is living with a purpose or goal which I can’t agree with any more. I’ve said to many people multiple times how much I believe living with a purpose can benefit a person’s mindset and happiness a whole lot. The third one is about priorities which is very useful but everyone knows that already, it’s just easier said than done. The fourth one is to think win-win and no matter how bad things look to always look on the bright side. The fifth one relates to what is being said about paradigms and trying to understand things from another point of view even when at first you don’t agree. The sixth one, similar to the fifth one, says look at things from another point of view but instead of the opposing point of view, try to see things from a completely different point of view that still solves the issue. The last habit is about self renewal and becoming one’s best self, just like the one about priorities. I feel like a lot of people know this already but it’s just not that easy to do.
This text was definitely my favorite out of everything we’ve read so far, I agree with a lot of what was being said and I found it all very interesting. If I had to follow any self-help tips this will be the first place I look and I will expect it to work.
This week read through the posts on Stephen Covey’s The 7 Habits and choose your favorite post. Comment here to register your vote, & don’t forget to include the name of your classmate, the link to their post, and your rationale for choosing it. Due Thursday, 3/4 by 9am. Happy reading/voting
Just like we did for The Secret read through your classmates’ reading response blogs on Self-Help; with Illustrations of Conduct and Perseverance and choose your favorite post. You can choose a post for any reason, but you always must clearly articulate your rationale for choosing it (e.g., why did you find it interesting, compelling, likeable, provocative, etc.?). This rationale can refer to content, style, creativity, etc. If, after reading everyone’s posts, you strongly feel that your post is your “favorite,” you can always vote for yourself, but you need to provide a rationale for doing so.
In order to register your vote (and get credit) for this week’s “People’s Choice,” “leave a reply” to this post, and in your comment, provide your chosen post, an excerpt from it + rationale for choosing it. Provide the title and author of the chosen post, along with a link to the post you are citing (please provide the link in the same comment: don’t make a separate one with just the link). Citing is really important (in this case, citing your classmate!), and this is a way of giving credit to other sources and putting yourself in dialogue with them.
Comments/votes are mandatory (regardless of whether you completed your own reading response post on Smiles’ Self-Help should be made by Thursday, 2/25 by 9am: the person with the most votes will earn the coveted “People’s Choice” honor for this round of posts! I’m looking forward to seeing what you choose, and why.
The title of Samual Smiles’ “Self-Help, with Illustrations of Conduct and Perseverance ” was taken as something that would be instructive with examples of experiences of individual that preserved no matter what downfalls experienced. I found it interesting that the title was mentioned in the prefix( p.4 ) in how it is misjudged and considered selfishness. Although the different views of the title or book it is available in but not limited to French, German, Dutch, and Danish editions.
This book is expressed to target young men as those who need to rely on one self and no verses others. That growth is done through failures. “Failure is the best discipline of the true worker, by stimulating him to renewed efforts”.(prefix p.5) This illustrates that failures are magnified as a necessary tool for growth. Beyond the prefix the reader will get a abnormal description of each chapter and notice the pages themselves lack numbers.
Chapter one is a more so guideline of what men should consider an outlet and what could possible hinder their perseverance. “Heaven helps those who help themselves”(Smiles p.18) Suggest men should look within themselves it also goes on to deter men from the government by stating it has a restrictive affect on them on page 20. Self-help is the antidote to Caesarisum. “Caesarisum is human idolatry in its worst form-a worship of mere power, as degrading in its effects as the worship of mere wealth would be”.(Smiles p.20) Knowledge and need to accomplish go hand and hand, without one the other would be worthless.
Chapter four goes on to emphasize the importance of not only perseverance ,but establishing the importance of the mind and heart correlation. “Locke, Helvetius, and Diderot believe that all men have equal aptitude for genius”(p.92) As important as that may seem Smiles also mentions the importance of accomplishing your task cheerfully.
I choose chapter five merely because of the title “Helps and Opportunities- Scientific Pursuits. Science has always been a grounded subject with fact based findings or theories that can or can not be proven. In this chapter it starts off by mentioning on (page 111) that “accidents does very little toward the production of any great result in life”. There for there is no force that can cause your course ,but your own actions, knowledge, and will to follow through. Accomplishment comes with time and in this we observe and example of this by the example given on Dr.Jenner among many others in this chapter. Dr.Jenner caught my eye because he was in the vaccination development and understanding for small-pox. Since we are currently experiencing a time where vaccinations are controversial , Dr.Jenner experienced this adverse reaction as well in London. After being shamed he tried it on his own sons and other willing people that would accept such a vaccine. Those individuals were scene as people that can possible get mutations and forced to stay inside their homes. It wasn’t until Lady Ducie and Countess of Berkeley accepted their children get vaccinated was it widely accepted. He declined London’s offer of practice. This chapter is filled with examples such as Dr.Jenner and how failures became part of their triumph.
I would consider this book a hard read based on the amount of information crammed into each chapter I’ve read. The metaphors are overly used which makes the text deterring. I do on the other hand appreciate the book for telling some of these important people’s full journeys and not just what they accomplished.
Self-Help by Samuel Smiles was a somewhat difficult read to me because of the time period it was published in. There were many unfamiliar words that were used that made me lose Smiles’ train of thought, though I wrote them down in my annotations. And some of the points seemed all over the place, while others were repeated just as The Secret by Rhonda Byrnes. The main ideas I got from reading these three chapters is that 1) being patient and actually working towards your goals will pay off, 2) anything someone else does you can do too, and 3) the home environment we grow up in shapes our lives.
In Chapter I: Self-Help –National and Individual, Smiles states we are where we are now through the thinking and actions of men. He pushes the idea that you don’t necessarily need to be a genius in order to do great work. To become successful in something you just need to push yourself and keep working at it. He kept repeating the idea that “a man perfects himself by work more than reading” (Smiles 22). And that the greatest contributors we know to science, literature, and art have mainly come from poor and humble beginnings– some with not much of an education. Smiles believes it is the difficulties these people have faced that have helped them fuel their work (Smiles 22-23). Outside of academics, what we do in our daily lives also plays a part in how successful we are.
In Chapter IV: Application and Perseverance, Smiles directly talks about the genius being. He says genius can be defined only as common sense intensified (Smiles 91). These individuals constantly work on the same ideas in order to fully grasp it, but they are also susceptible to their own share of hardships as anyone else is. This can be anything from having your years work of calculations being accidentally caught on fire like Isaac Newton or finding only bits and pieces of your 200 drawings because Norwegian rats chewed through them like John Audubon had (Smiles 96-97). Although frustrating, if they had given up at those points we wouldn’t see the hand they had in science and art respectively today. “To know how to wait is the great secret to success” (De Maistre 94). Another important idea in this chapter is “any man can do what any other man has done” (Dr. Young 96).
The extra chapter I chose to read was Chapter XII: Examples –Models. This chapter focuses again on how action will get you to where you want to be, but also how this is instilled in us as children, and how we are able to continue this cycle in our adult life. When we were younger we did many things because we saw the adults in our lives doing it. Seeing things leaves more of an impression than hearing and reading. We have always been led by example. As adults we need to surround ourselves with others just like us, or that are “better” than us. And we need to keep in mind that we are better off alone rather than be in bad company. Smiles says “good rules may do much, but good models far more; for in the latter we have instruction in action” (307).
I agree with this idea of surrounding yourself with like people because with them you won’t find that you are deterring from any goals you have set to achieve. You will also have others that will inspire you and motivate you to keep pushing forward when things get tough. Overall I believe this text was better than The Secret by Rhonda Byrnes because it’s more realistic and can be seen as relatable. The author Samuel Smiles is basically trying to push people to do what they want to do. He tells the stories of others so you won’t feel alone and he doesn’t make any promises that are out of reach.
My vote for the People’s choice #1 is for Aryanna Smith. Because I agree with her point of view of the secret to the world. I wrote a comment on her post =)
As you know, throughout the semester, I am going to be choosing a “featured post” (or “posts”) for each blog assignment, to highlight examples of successful blogs (AKA, “Professor’s Picks”). But … what I might find compelling or well-done in a blog post might not be the same thing as your peers do. Enter “People’s Choice Posts,” which allow the students to read and honor awesome writing by their classmates (or themselves!). This also helps to bring student voices into the course more fully, as each student’s blogs become (required) reading for the course.
Here’s how it will work. Read through your classmates’ reading response blogs on “The Secret” and choose your favorite post. You can choose a post for any reason, but you always must clearly articulate your rationale for choosing it (e.g., why did you find it interesting, compelling, likeable, provocative, etc.?). This rationale can refer to content, style, creativity, etc. If, after reading everyone’s posts, you strongly feel that your post is your “favorite,” you can always vote for yourself, but you need to provide a rationale for doing so.
In order to register your vote for this week’s “People’s Choice,” “leave a reply” to this post, and in your comment, provide your chosen post, an excerpt from it + rationale for choosing it. Provide the title and author of the chosen post, along with a link to the post you are citing (please provide the link in the same comment: don’t make a separate comment with just the link). Citing is really important (in this case, citing your classmate!), and this is a way of giving credit to other sources and putting yourself in dialogue with them.
Comments/votes are mandatory, should be made no later than Thursday, 2/11 at 9am: the person with the most votes will earn the coveted “People’s Choice” honor for this round of posts! I’m looking forward to seeing what you choose, and why.
“The secret” by Rhonda Byrne is a text describing how much easier life can be if we understood and took advantage of something that she referred to as “The secret”. It begins explaining what the secret can do for people and from the sound of it, I believed it was revolutionary because it appeared to make everything in your life go your way, even things you would think we have no control over. Eventually it is revealed that the secret is what is known as “The law of attraction”, the idea that everything that happens to us happened to us because we attracted it. At first I thought it made sense, If I envision myself passing a test, chances are that would raise my motivation to study for the test which leads to me passing. However, that wasn’t exactly what was being explained. I misunderstood and believed that the positive/negative thoughts that were being discussed worked as a chain reaction that changed our actions and the way we do things which would obviously effect us. I was wrong, the idea was that our thoughts are so powerful that they alone are creating these things that happen to us. That sounds crazy and impossible. I’m not going to pretend I know alot about this topic when I don’t, I’m just going to express how much I don’t believe it.
According to the text, thoughts give out frequencies the same way television towers do. These frequencies are transmitted to the universe which gives the universe the power to make that thought a reality. The text makes it seem as though the universe is some sort of magic machine that takes thought and turns it into real life scenarios. If you tell yourself “I really hope a stranger doesn’t try to rob me while i’m walking home alone at midnight” according to this text you are sending out an invititation to the universe to work it’s magic and make a random stranger decide to cross paths with you and rob you. My idea of the universe isn’t some almighty thing that can make literally anything happen, I thought the universe was simply something where the planets, stars and galaxies around us were inside. Secondly, my idea of thoughts isn’t the same idea as its represented in this text. You can not think of something and just like that, it gets sent somewhere with all that information as if its some sort of email. Thoughts stay where they take place, in our minds.
I want to mention something this text reminded me of, and thats the time I experienced something similar to this. I remember when I was in 6th grade, on the first day of class, my teacher told us we are expected to come in next monday with a green folder. Over the course of the weekend I forgot about it and sunday night was when I remembered. I was worrying because it was too late to go and buy one and it would be too early to go and get one the next day before school. So I kept searching through old supplies I left lying around and didnt find anything. Lastly, I searched in a closet where leftover school supplies was and inside a white bag was nothing inside, nothing but one folder that happened to be green. It was satisfying but scary with how lucky I got, it genuinely felt like the work of a higher power. The point of saying this is to let it be known that coincidences happen and that’s most likely how this idea was formed. Crazy coincidences occured and eventually it was brought up that they weren’t coincidences but a “Law of attraction”.
“The secret” was very interesting but I wish I didn’t let myself be so intrigued by the fact that I disagreed so much. With every chapter I read I found myself seeing more and more things I just felt were impossible. One positive thing I can say however is that this gives people who believe in it hope, and I believe this about alot of other worldy things people tend to believe in. I feel that even if people are believing in things that are not true, atleast it gives them hope for a better future.
In the self-help book, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, Byrne teaches us that the way to achieve the things we really want in life is through the law of attraction. The law of attraction is the secret to attaining the things we desire. Byrne also explains that through the law of attraction we already are where we are now. This concept works simply through our thoughts. Our thoughts are magnetic (they attract what we think) and they constantly attract new frequencies. She gives us the example of being wealthy. If you want to become wealthy you need to have predominant thoughts of wealth, you need to visualize and feel that wealth, and you can’t have feelings of doubt. Most people go about this the wrong way and think about the things they don’t want. The universe doesn’t understand words like “don’t”, “not”, or “no” (Byrne 14). Putting out of the thought of something negative only attracts more of it. Another problem some people face is that they fear loss of wealth once they have it which does lead to that loss.
Byrne states that the feelings you have are important because they tell you what you are truly thinking, and these feelings are your guides to putting your thoughts back on the right track. A key strategy to change a bad thought to a good one quickly is through your secret shifters. Your secret shifters can be anything that you know will instantly change your mood to a better one like a certain memory or a favorite song. Having more than one is important in case one of them doesn’t do the trick. Learning how to meditate also helps clear your mind of bad thoughts.
According to Byrne the steps to the secret are 1) asking and 2) believing. You don’t need to ask questions like how– the universe will just provide. The question of how displays lack of belief. If any action is needed it will be asked of you in a clear way. Being thankful for the things you have now is also important as it helps to shift your energy. Another thing to be mindful of is if something goes wrong at some point throughout your day, at night replay those events the way you wanted them to go and you will be putting out a more positive frequency.
The extra chapter I chose to read is titled “The Secret to Money” (found on pages 95-112). I chose this one just because I am a bad saver and wanted to see if there were any tips specifically for that, and because I am currently unemployed and wanted to see what would be discussed. In this chapter Byrne states that you have to shift your thoughts from lack-of-money to more-than-enough money (Byrne 99). Not having enough is caused by mentally blocking the flow of money from coming to you. First you need to be content with what you already have and understand that your source of money doesn’t need to just be your job. You also need to start saying you can afford things and give back when you can (not sacrifice). According to Byrne, giving back shows that you have plenty and so the flow will be reciprocated back.
Personally when I read these few chapters of The Secret, I didn’t pick up on anything that sounded out of the ordinary. The main message was just sort of repeated throughout the book. I have heard of manifesting before (this is what the law of attraction sounds like to me) and although I’ve never tried it, it does seem intriguing because I have had friends tell me that it’s worked for them. But I believe that action on one’s part is needed in order to attain the things in this book. I think this may help people become more positive individuals which is a good thing and to some extent thinking more positively does bring back good energy/karma, but just counting on things to come to you instead of doing things to get there may slow your progression. Byrne does state that there can be signs from the universe when action is needed but to me these can just be regular instances that were going to happen because of something you have done.