I am going to be doing my research project on practicing self love. Before I do start I would like to start by making sure we understand what self love means. Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. I chose this topic because I feel like I haven’t been putting myself first. I’m always putting myself second. I tend to put other people’s needs before my own and that’s not bad but it’s also not good.
So I just want to take the time to research how to take care of myself and my needs in order to benefit my life. Self-love can mean something different for each person because we all have different ways to take care of ourselves. The questions I hope to address are like why self help is important and why should we start practicing it. I found three articles that I will be discussing in my paragraphs.
The first article i’m going to be talking about is“30 ways to practice self love and be good to yourself” by Jessie Hays. This article gives plenty of ways you can practice self love. Jessie says,”Find your happy place. Where’s the one place you feel totally at ease, calm, happy, positive, high on life? Go to that place when you are going through hard times, or imagine yourself being there. Think about how it feels, what it smells like, what it looks like”. I can relate to this quote so much because when I’m mad or upset I go to my balcony which is my happy place. I would enjoy the fresh breeze and allow myself to be present in the moment. This works for me but it may not work for other people because as I said before people cope with practicing self love differently. Another quote that caught my eye was when she says,”Treat others with love and respect. It makes us feel better about ourselves when we treat others the way we hope to be treated. That doesn’t mean everybody will always repay the favor, but that’s their problem not yours”. This quote is basically saying to treat others how you want to be treated. So being available and helpful to those in need. I can connect this quote to “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne because in the book she says,” when you do not treat yourself the way you want others to treat you, you can never change the way things are. Your actions are your powerful thoughts, so if you do not treat yourself with love and respect, you are emitting a signal that is saying you are not important enough, worthy enough or deserving”. The rule of treating others as you would want to be treated in their place will ultimately lead to your own happiness. This quote connects to what I was saying because it’s the same idea. Make it a habit to try to place yourself in the shoes of another person because you never know what the other person is going through. It doesn’t matter if it’s a friend, family member or even someone on the street.
The second article i’m going to talk about is “The importance of self-love” by Zubayer Khan Zakir. This article was stating the important aspects of self-love. The author says,”When our loved ones make a mistake we often forgive them easily, but when we make a mistake we are often too hard on ourselves”. I can relate to this quote because I am so hard on myself when it comes to making mistakes. I act like it’s the end of the world when it really is not. Everyone makes mistakes, but learning how to learn from these errors, let go, move on, and forgive yourself is important for well-being. I need to learn how to forgive myself because if I do then I can move on with my life instead of ruminating over past events that can’t be changed.
The third article I’m going to talk about is “How To Practice Self-Love When You Have Low Self-Esteem”. This article is about how you can navigate the journey of self love and the best way to improve self-esteem when you are feeling stuck. Self-esteem associated with the way you view yourself. I have low self esteem when it comes to certain things like lack of confidence. The author says,”It can be a struggle to accept any compliments or comments on your finer qualities”. I can relate to this because I’m very insecure about my self and when I get compliments I just find it hard to accept.
Hays, Jessie. “30 ways to practice self love and be good to yourself.”
Khan Zakir, Zubayer.”The importance of self-love”. January 8,2019 at 12:00AM
“How To Practice Self-Love When You Have Low Self-Esteem”