The documentary Catfish had many twists, and was full of surprises. I really enjoyed watching the documentary because a lot of unexpected things happen. Angela was a married woman with a daughter, husband and two stepsons. She pretended to have two daughters and a son. She tricked Nev, and made him fall for Megan, which was Angela’s made up daughter, and she was pretending to be two different characters. She also pretended that her young daughter Abby was a painter when in reality she was the painter. She played many roles and did many things to continue with her lies. Angela would send paintings to Nev acting like if she was Abby and Nev would love them. Angela lived all the way in Michigan and Nev was in nyc. Nev and Megan had a great relationship. They met on Facebook and Nev had multiple friends on facebook that were somehow connected to Angela. The fake page that Angela made for her character Megan was the person she knew would get a guys attention because she was a beautiful girl. She made herself how she knew she would be liked. The article “The Flight from conversation” states that “posting let us present the self we want to be”(pg2) and also “…we can edit. And if we wish to, we can delete. Or retouch: the voice, the flesh, the face, the body.” (pg2) In other words, we can mold ourselves into the person we want to be online. Megan really impressed Nev because she was a dancer, singer and had great qualities. Nev started to get curious when he never really go to speak to Abby on the phone. Nev was going near Michigan for an event and wanted to get Angela, Megan and Abby to meet up with him so that he can finally meet them. Megan had sent him a song that she pretended to record and New ended up finding it on the internet. After he figured out she was lying he started to investigate more and more and knew that he had to find out if Megan was even a real person. He traveled all the way to Michigan and drove to a farm house where megan was suppose to be with horses and didnt see her or horses. The next morning he want to Angela’s house and met her and her husband Vince and sons. Angela did not look like what she looked like in the paintings that Abby supposedly had painted of her. That’s when Nev knew it was a lie. Nev spoke to Abby and asked her if she really likes to paint and she said that she only paints sometimes not often and that her mom paints more, and thats how he found out Angela was the painter When he mentioned Abby’s sister, Abby said she hadn’t seen her in a very long time. When New tried to reach Meg to see her she made a huge excuse. Nev knew it was Angela the whole time. Nev confronted Angela and she told him the fake truth. She told him that she has cancer, and told him that the girl Megan was a close family friend which she lied about. I think Angela was really messed up for what she did and it was very sad. She made Nev fall for someone who was just a character and she was being a fake friend by lying to him. Nev was nice and didn’t go harsh on her. Social media, Facebook in particular is what really helped Angela’s lie last as long as it did. This teaches us that we Facebook can lead us to making fake interactions and fake friends.
In the article “Is Facebook Making Us Lonely?” by Stephen Marche, loneliness is the main point being discussed. The relationship between Technology and loneliness is strong. The social media used in technology has many good and bad influences. Facebook, is one example of social media that is being discussed, that has influenced how people communicate. The article states that “ That one little phrase, Your real friends—so quaint, so charmingly mothering—perfectly encapsulates the anxieties that social media have produced: the fears that Facebook is interfering with our real friendships, distancing us from each other, making us lonelier; and that social networking might be spreading the very isolation it seemed designed to conquer.” In other words, social media can cause a person to distance themselves from others because they are too busy using it, posting stuff and communicating with people, that they pay little attention to real friends. The good thing about social media is that you can communicate without having to be face-to-face with a person.
Is Facebook making us lonely? In this article, loneliness is the main point being discussed. The relationship between social media and loneliness is strong.Facebook is a very popular social network that has influenced how people communicate. In the article Is Facebook Making us Lonely, it states that “The people who experience loneliness on Facebook are lonely away from Facebook, too, she points out; on Facebook, as everywhere else, correlation is not causation. The popular kids are popular, and the lonely skulkers skulk alone.” I agree with this quote because a person thats lonely can have a lot of friends on facebook but that doesn’t mean that those people are really friends with them or that they even communicate with each other on facebook or off. If you are popular, most likely you will also be popular on facebook and have many to communicate with. A point that stood out to me in the article was, “ That one little phrase, Your real friends—so quaint, so charmingly mothering—perfectly encapsulates the anxieties that social media have produced: the fears that Facebook is interfering with our real friendships, distancing us from each other, making us lonelier; and that social networking might be spreading the very isolation it seemed designed to conquer.” I agree and disagree with this statement. I agree with it because I do think that sometimes facebook does distance us from each other because sometimes we are so distracted being on it that we forget to pay any attention to the people that are physically near us. I disagree with this quote because although it may interfere with existing real friendships, it can also create new ones. I say this because I once met a boy on Facebook, and we became friends and met up in person and hung out for a while, and eventually that guy became my boyfriend for a period of time. I think that the effect on Facebook all depends on who you are, and the the way you let it impact you.
On my Facebook I have about 2,000 friends and I only know about three hundred of them in person. This means that I have over 1,000 friends that are complete strangers. People who are actually close to me from that amount are around fifty. In the image below it shows that I have 143 friend requests because I stopped accepting once I realized the number of strangers that I have on Facebook.
The articles The Flight From Conversation by Sherry Turkle, and Saving the Lost Art of Conversation by Megan Garber, are both about the ideas that Sherry Turkle has about how technology influences conversations. In the article The Flight From Conversation, Sherry Turkle talks about how people are always on their devices, whether its at home, or on a date or at a workplace, and how conversations are being made a lot on devices rather than in person. She points out that we’ve gotten accustomed to a new way of being alone together. Two people can be in two separate places all alone and somehow still be connected so that they are alone together by their devices. A part of the article that caught my attention was when she says that “maintaining eye contact with someone while you text someone else; its hard, but it can be done.” This catches my attention because I agree with it. I personally do this often, where I text someone or use my cellphone while having a conversation with someone in person and trying to maintain eye contact with them so that they won’t think I’m not listening to them when I am, while I’m really just multitasking. I prefer texting someone instead of talking to them face to face most of the time because I can organize my thoughts before I say them instead of just talking and trying to say what I have to without it coming out the wrong way. Another reason I prefer texting instead of having a conversation face to face is because I like to avoid awkward moments which brings me to the article Saving the Lost Art of Conversation. The Article mentions that “Conversations, as they tend to play out in person, are messy- full of pauses and interruptions and topic changes and assorted awkwardness.” I agree with this quote because communicating in person pressures you to say what you have to say on the spot with the risk of saying something the wrong way or order accidentally. It also causes pauses in your conversation when you’re trying to gather your thoughts on what you are about to say or discuss.
In the article Saving the Lost Art of Conversation, it states that “The internet is always on. And it’s always judging you, watching you, goading you.” I agree with this because often, people are always being judged or watched on the internet. I can connect this quote to one in the article The Flight From Conversation, which states “Texting email and posting let us present the self we want to be. This means we can edit. And if we wish to, we can delete. Or retouch: the voice, the flesh, the body. Not too much, not too little- just right.” Since people are always being judged, it’s good that devices and the internet let us be seen the way we want to be looked at. These articles have made me realize that devices really do have an big impact on how we communicate with others.
Hey! My name is Nisi Mendez.This is my first semester in City Tech, and I’m majoring in Accounting. I like playing Badminton, and love music. I’m quiet sometimes, but very friendly and outgoing once you get to know me. I’m really looking forward to this semester because I’m focused on doing my best. My expectation for this class is to get an A or B+. I really want to go away for college, so I want to do my best while I’m in college in the city.